i ask him to use condoms, but he swears he doesn't have any, but i find them in his stuff all the time. i want to leave but i love him, what should i do
2006-11-08 07:29:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop sleeping with him. Period. If you don't, you will be pregnant, and in the end it will be your problem since it's your body.
If he won't wear a condom, don't sleep with him. Put your foot down. You are worth it. You are endangering your health and your future by not using a rubber!
2006-11-08 07:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is not what you want to hear, but start carrying your own condoms. If you do it right he won't complain about wearing them. try offering to put them on using you mouth. I've never met a guy yet that would turn that down. besides, just because a guy doesn't want to wear a condom, doesn't mean he is trying to get you pregnant. Like most guys, he probably just hates condoms. The real issue is the fact that he is hiding condoms. That usually means he has a use for them, it's just not you. That, coupled with the fact that you distrust him enough to go thru his stuff means things are probably over between you already. I'd say it's time to get everything out in the open and have "THE TALK".
2006-11-08 07:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by traveler.3339 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not be trying to get you pregnant but he probably doesnt like using the condoms. TOO BAD.
Maybe you should take care of yourself as far as birth control goes because if you do wind up pregnant what is he going to say ''oops''?
Where does that leave you?
Either go on the pill or refuse him any sex unless he uses a condom.
Why dont YOU get the condoms and have them so he has no excuse?
2006-11-08 07:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by chiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready for a baby, then u better get on birth control. Or take extra steps not to have a baby. If he can't be open about a child, then u REALLY, REALLY NEED TO BE ON SOME FORM OF B/C. He may just want to no hassle with condoms and like the natrual feel. But u really need to be on b/c. Did i stress that enough????
There are many forms out there, and over the counter forms. If children aren't in ur future anytime soon, do a iud, if his ur only partner. Go with the depo if u dont want to go that far. It keeps u protected from pregnancy and open to go natrual with ur dude. U need to take the extra measure, becuz u will be the one worring about that child that is or will be concieved.
2006-11-08 07:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by csabrinam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't like the feel w/ condoms - if he's trying to get you pregnant that's a little extreme - even though he should be fully aware and accept the fact that this is a possibility.
Go to the clinic - get birth control and get tested as well. If he wants to keep sleeping with you make sure he gets tested too.
2006-11-08 07:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must insist that he uses a Condom. Apart from getting pregnant, not using a condom may lead to you getting a number of sexually transmitted diseases. Some may irritate you for a while until you get them treated by the Dr, some may stay with you all your life, and others may kill you.
Please wear a Condom, and don't feel silly by asking more questions about these diseases.
If he does not want to wear one, then, he is being totally unreasonable and you have to think whether you really love him.
You HAVE to be selfish on this one, its either the condom or goodbye. For you and your bodies sake. please.
2006-11-08 07:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by bikbokkop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters its your body!!! If you do not want to be pregnant at this time stop relying on a man to prevent that from happening! Get on birth control pills - if your a minor you can get them at Planned Parenthood and they won't tell your parents.
As for wanting to leave the guy, if you want to leave you must not really love him. You probably like him and maybe picture yourself without anyone in your life if you don't have him.
There is nothing wrong with being by yourself til the right one comes along - which isn't going to happen as long as your with the wrong one.
2006-11-08 07:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by neona807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is kind of creepy. He may be trying to trap you. Do not rely on a man to use birth control. Count on us being totally irresponsible, because most of us are. Get on the pill or have your own condoms or use a diaphragm. This is your responsibility!
You will get pregnant and when you do, if you are not financially stable and mentally ready you and the child will suffer. Have unprotected sex and you are playing Russian roulette with your future. NO PROTECTION, NO SEX. Please! For YOUR Life.
2006-11-08 07:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Joshuwa G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you just go buy some and then when you ask him to put on a condom and he says he doesn't have any you say oh I got one. and see what he says. maybe he just doesn't like the feeling of the condoms. What makes you assume he's trying to get you pregnant?
2006-11-08 07:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by MelC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. He's just being a man. Men don't like protection. Men likes the feel of the vagina. I suggest buying a box of profo's and just do a little more forplay with your hands, breast, mouth then he'll be more willing to submit to the condom.
2006-11-08 07:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋