me and my lady have been together for almost 4 1/2 years now and all of sudden she says she just lost feelings for me..and now it has been 2 days of pain...
2006-11-08 07:14:45 · 16 answers · asked by sQuIdWeEzY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in a relationship for 5 years and we mutually broke up. For 2 days straight, I was a wreck. I couldn't eat or sleep and I was missing class and calling off work. What helped me was he and I finally talked about everything. Although it was only on the phone, he and I discussed how we were feeling and what the future would offer both of us. Together, we both realized that the world had so much to offer and that we had to understand that after 5 years, we were different people and we were going our separate ways. He assured me that he would be OK as I would be as well and with that, I realized that he was right. Although we had a good relationship, things weren't meant to be and that's OK. My problem was I was more worried about him than I was myself. Once I knew that he was OK, I was OK. I moved on with my life and have yet to regret anything in regards to that relationship. I am now happily married and couldn't ask for anything better. But, I am so very grateful that he and I took the time to discuss our feelings, and although that was sadly the last time I spoke to him, I will never forget it. He and I ended on good terms without any bitterness or hatred. So if I could offer you any advice, it would be to talk things out with her and understand where each other stands. You may not end up together, but at least you'll understand each other in a way that may not have occurred otherwise. Believe me, the pain will eventually fade, but only if the right measures are taken.
Best of luck.
2006-11-08 07:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by LuckyOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
I have been there before. And it sucks.
She said that she has lost feeling for you. and that sometimes happens.
The bottom line is that you deserve to be with somethat feels the same way that you do about them hun.
Although i know that it hurts sooo much right now that you just don't know if you can make it through the day with out breakin down. And everything that you do or say makes you think about that person.
You have to be true to yourself and let this relationship go. Hun ... It hard i know but you have to think of yourself in the long run. If she dosen't want to be with you. you arent going to be happy and more importantly niether are you.
As much as it suck right now
Hang in there
Best of luck
Ps if you need someone to talk to please contact me at any time..
2006-11-08 15:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by heather_honey_2002hs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give yourself and her some time and space to breathe and think clearly.
don't give in to eating binges. get busy with extra curricular activities like community sports teams, joining a gym, volunteering somewhere, become a big brother to someone, or whatever outside the house activity you enjoy without your gf.
and then take it from there. maybe drop her a bouquet with a note asking if you can meet and talk or something like that. just follow your heart.
and remember,
"Nothing Heals A Broken Heart LIke Time, Love, and Tenderness"
2006-11-08 15:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, mister, you're just going to have to deal with it. you guys obviously weren't meant to be together. As much as it hurts, there's no forcing her to love you. That's not how this whole love thing works. I don't reccommend just jumping into another relationship, you might end up only seeking happiness in a nonsatisfyin way which will only leave you even more gloomy. Spend time with family and friends, people who care about you.
2006-11-08 15:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by wolfgirl1987 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think about her in a loving way. I know whenever I got dumped, I thought about the way they dumped me or the terrible things they did while we were together. It still will take a while because you'll want to start thinking about the good things, but you just gotta think about stuff that makes you mad with her. Hope this helps and good luck.
2006-11-08 15:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry about that. It'll take time to heal. In the meanwhile throw yourself into something else productive and keep your mind busy. Eventually, you will get over it and maybe in a few weeks, you could start seeing someone else and begin to enjoy all the perks to being single.
2006-11-08 15:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sucks, but your probably spending too much time thinking of her when you should be enjoying some free time with the fella's, go get a bottle, or better yet go to the club and put your mack down.
2006-11-08 15:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out have fun live ur life and find someone new. It will be hard but the more fun u have the less u think about the sad things in life.
2006-11-08 15:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's going to take a lot of time not just 2 days... she will have affected your life for forever long and you need to accept that she's not part of it anymore. try thinking about positive reasons why ending this relationship will be healthy for you.
2006-11-08 15:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to say Time heals and really it does but what's working for me this time is someone new
2006-11-08 15:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋