I know this happens a lot, but my boyfriend and I's relationship has changed. We've been together for a year in less than a week and have been living together for about 10 months. For about the first 5 months, we didn't go an hour without talking when we were away from each other. Then our relationship changed- just talking less, and I just adjusted. Now, we just talk once maybe twice a day while away from each other. I know it's normal, but I'm just a bit depressed. I don't feel as close to him anymore and like he's as crazy about me as he used to be- I'm even more in love with him than I was a year ago. Anyone else been through the same thing?
2006-11-08 07:13:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think both of you are just falling into a routine and realize that neither one of you is going to go anywhere. There doesn't seem to be any relationship issues since you seem to love him more thatn before. The less talking maybe means that you are more secure in the relationship since it's been a long time and don't need the constant reminder that he is there and he is your boyfirend. To keep things from getting boring, try something spontaneous and new that he would never suspect. If you two totally stop talking then there may be something wrong, but now it seems fine to me. Good Luck!
2006-11-08 07:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Meagan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone! I think this happens in every relationship. The first few months or year of the relationship is always totally different. The relationship is still new and fresh. You are still totally lusting over eachother and want to be around eachother all the time. You've just adjusted to one another. You're used to speaking and seeing eachother everyday. This is just how relationships are.... however, do things that are out of the ordinary. Go on dates where you normally wouldn't go. If you are sexually active, spice it up a little in the bedroom (or bathroom, or kitchen, or living room :) ).
You are just in love now. No longer in lust. The only thing you're missing is how naturally new and exciting the relationship is... so you just have to make it new and exciting!
2006-11-08 15:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed , I'm going through the same thing right now when we first met we spoke to each other everynight sometimes until the sun comes up , then I get to work the next day and I'm dead tired, but it was ok because I love talking to him. Now we live together and he's so insecure. I enjoy his company because he makes me laugh and he's fun to be aroud but he wants to know my every move and who I'm talking to on the phone and that fustrates me a whole lot at times.
2006-11-08 15:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by cutecarribbeanbutterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to work on relationships and not expect them to always be the same day after day.
It takes two to make a relationship work whether you are married or living together.
It is up to you to make the spark keep burning. Every once in a while you need to light it and let it burn. Both of you have gotten comfortable with each other.
Don't make something wrong with something when it does not need to be fixed.
2006-11-08 15:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
me. i feel the same way. i have been with my fiance for 3 1/2 yrs living together for over 1 yr. We don't communicate as much and we are trying to figure out what we both enjoy doing so we can have fun together and spend quality time together doing things we both enjoy. My fiance just says that he really doesn't have anything to say or talk about which hurts my feelings but now we are trying to find certain things to do or certain activities we both enjoy so we can do them together. Good luck i hope u can be happy
2006-11-08 15:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have. Just do something crazy sexy and romantic for him at home. He is still just as interested and 'into' you as he was. You still talk a couple times a day when you are away from one another, that is a good sign. Blessed be.
2006-11-08 15:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you got sucked into the fantasy of a relationship and stopped being an individual. Get over it and have your own life, you can't be joined at the hip.
Seriously, please realize that "we didn't go an hour without talking" is clingy, desperate, and perhaps a little psychotic.
2006-11-08 15:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by zmj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is sticking around then he probably still cares. He is just tired of talking about the same thing everyday. Weather, what ya doing when he is at work?...etc.
2006-11-11 09:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mjt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens..when you have been together for awhile, you have learned alot about each other and tend to fall into a routine. as long as when you are together the conversation isn't lacking, then you should be ok...if it is..do something to spice things up and get the conversation flowing again
2006-11-08 15:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him how he's feeling about things.
2006-11-08 15:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle118 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋