okay here is the deal, i have been friends with this guy for like ever, we used to mess around but now we are best friends, anyways about a year ago he started dated this ugly girl whom he would never brought anywhere with us and when she wasnt around he would make fun of her.well a year has passed and she has told him they have to get married and he has agreed, but the thing is he treats her horribly, still makes fun of her and wont go out in public with her. i've gotten really close to her in the past year and i cant stand how he treats her, he tells her he loves her, but he sure dont act like it. she said it has been months since he touched her and a couple of weeks ago he tried taking me and a friend home. does he love her? and should i tell her what he says about her? i feel really bad for her
2006-11-08 07:13:11 · 4 answers · asked by shorty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont want him for myself, i am married the only reason it really bothers me is b/c i really like her and she is a good person. also she has mentioned stuff about him not taking her anywhere and he brushes it off
2006-11-08 07:27:25 · update #1
You should deff tell her how he is treating her behind her back. He truly doesnt lover her because he is hiding her from being seen in public with her when you love someone you want to show the world your trophy. She deserves better, and she deserves for you to tell her what is going on, dont just come out straight on her, sit down and talk to her make her realize some of the things that are going on, ask her has she realized that he never wants to go out with her, and does she think that is strange? Let her know everything, she will prob be mad and think you are just jealous or you dont really know how he feels about her because you arent with him. But dont give up let her get mad, but be there for her, tell her that you told her and got it off your chest, and you arent going to make decisions for her but you will be there for her if she needs you. Let her know she has you to fall back on. HOpefully she will get out of the relationship before she makes a drastic decision. He should be ashamed of himself and if i were you i wouldnt have anything else to do with this guy.
2006-11-08 07:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by munchkin0430 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I understand it: (1) you and he are friends. (2) he's in a relationship with someone else. (3) you don't like the way he treats her.
So...(1) You need decide if the reason you're concerned about their relationship is that you want to keep him as a possible life partner/husband. (2) if you are genuinely concerned about his relationship, address it GENTLY from the point of view of a concern about him as a friend (and indirectly, you). Otherwise, you just look like you're butting in. (3) Do not try and get involved in their relationship.
2006-11-08 07:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by mjkiranj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself
does he treat her bad around people?
why does he want to get married?
if u ask him his morals and what is really going on maybe u will find out, only he can say if he loves her...it might feel good to dump it in her face but maybe you should let her know do not give her it raw
2006-11-08 07:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy Shamina Hercules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt love her either that or he really loves her but hhe doesnt wany people to make fun of her or anything by hher looks but i think u should tell ur friends that looks dont matter much
2006-11-08 07:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by emont_1029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋