MY MOTHER IS A GOOD MOTHER BUT EVERYDAY, ALL DAY, ALL SHE TALKS ABOUT IS HER PAIN, WHETHER IT BE PHYSICAL OR EMOTIONAL. IT IS DESTROYING OUR MOTHER-DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP.
THANK YOU
2006-11-08 07:10:41 · 14 answers · asked by cfemstudent 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sit down and tell her how much she means to you and how important it is to have a relationship with her. Then, show her the printout of this and your question and all the other answers here. This could be the start of an open communication between the two of you.
Best to you and your mom.
2006-11-08 07:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by Animaholic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So how do you love your mother and offer support without going crazy or feeling completely drained by the end of the day? Try changing your activities together. If you go for lunch and she always complains non stop then don't have lunch. Go to a movie so she has to be quiet and her mind is on other things for an hour or two. Talk about the film after and if she drifts into her woe is me scenario try redirecting her to discussing the film. You need a change too. Tell her she is draining you and you want to support her but you can't listen to this stuff all the time. Get her involved with people her own age and they can gripe together. Take care of yourself.
2006-11-08 07:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respond to her pain by talking about your own (imaginary) pain. Every time she says something about her pain, cut her short and complain about a stomach pain, a sore knee, a stubbed toe or whatever you can come up with.
Go into detail, describe how it feels and how it's affecting your day. Bounce some of her own words back at her in describing how you're feeling. Your pain might not be physical but it is still real. She needs to know that she is not alone in her pain and you also need to discuss problems. Good luck.
2006-11-08 07:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by eddie_schaap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her. Tell her you understand that she has physical and emotional pain and you are sympathetic to that, but you have other topics you'd like to discuss with her.
If you don't feel that you can do that, ignore her pain comments and talk about something else. My mom is the same way and she'll interrupt me when I am talking to talk about her 'pain' I let her finish then keep on talking about whatever I was discussing before the interuption.
2006-11-08 07:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by Brandie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there !
Start making her feel that..you are intersted in her well beings too ! Ask her daily about the intensity of the pain etc etc..Sit and spend some time with her too !
Make her feel that she is wanted !
Also, if you feel that the pain is physical and genuine, get a GP accross for checking her..!
Follow these and I assure you that there will be a world of difference !
Best wishes !
2006-11-08 07:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by suresh k 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people have to have misery. They don't think they can function without having something to be miserable about. No joke. She needs counseling. You may have to "detach with love" and not have much contact with her if she won't get help. I have a friend who's mom is like that. She has money, health, family, friends and all she can do is think about the things she doesn't have--which is bull. I hate being around miserable people like that and it IS catching. You'll find yourself leaving your mother's feeling so low yourself.
2006-11-08 07:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships are toxic and people who complain all the time are toxic people. My mother is the same way. I no longer have a relationship with her because her complaining was getting worse and she expected everyone to feel sorry for her and if you didn't you were wrong and she would fight with you over it. I got tired of hearing the complaining and arguing with her.
2006-11-08 07:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by BethEDRN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs some counseling and also a pain management clinic of some sort that will also help her emotionally.
My thinking is, as much as anything, that it is a habit with her. She may not realize that she is doing this so often.
Talk to her and see if she can get some help.
2006-11-08 07:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pyschologist/Psychiatrist. Psychiatrist is like a psychologist but with a medical degree and therefore can prescribe pills. Mom needs a counselor and you need to tell her you love her but she needs to come up with a different topic of conversation or you won't talk to her.
2006-11-08 07:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 10:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋