I have found that in my past relationships....I left a guy because I found a girl texted him asking, "why are you losing interest in me?...We've had so much fun hookin up!? " So I dumped him after i called her to only find out she knew nothing about me and it had been going on for months!! And then about two weeks later ... all kinds of his friends come to me telling me..."Man I never knew why he always hooked up with those other girls?! You're so much better than that...good for you for leavin his ***!
So why...why do people wait until AFTER the fact, why can't people be honest and say something to you before it goes on for any amount of time!!
Or does everyone cheat and I am just nieve?
2006-11-08 07:10:07 · 14 answers · asked by mslatin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people still believe in minding their own business.
2006-11-08 07:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get why people are calling the asker such horrible things. Cheating is bad, yes, but guess what: 50 percent of people in committed relationships have admitted to cheating so half of you people are no better than he is. I'd just leave her and not tell her if I were you. Adding insult to injury doesn't help and she'll find out sooner or later since women always do. I'm not going to join in on the stone throwers and say "oh she deserves better" and blah blah blah because I don't know the conditions of your situation just like everybody else here.
2016-05-21 22:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been my experience as the "one cheated upon" and "the friend who knows" that if you tell the person might not care enough to leave their guy. This will frustrate you to no end and you'll hate being around the guy and your friend will know that and everything will just be WIERD. If I know something I will give the facts and that's it. If I'm asked my opinion on how it looks I'll go ahead and say. If I'm not sure I keep my mouth shut. No one wants to leave without facts...too much turmoil is involved.
AS the one being cheated on I would want my friends to do the same. If you're positive and you have facts...bring it.If you don't keep it to yourself. Don't expect a guy to rat out his friend though. That's unlikely.
2006-11-08 07:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because:
1. Guys normally do not rat about other guys cuz most of them does it too. Besides, they are his friends. What about your girlfriends?
2. Would you have believed it if anyone told you while you were still in the relationship and still madly in love?
3. Besides, friends, more often than not, would give you "space" especially when you tell them you are happy with your relationship. They would not want to burst your bubble besides whistle blowers are looked at like traitors. Only family members can say these things to your face and not even sometimes.
2006-11-08 07:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People wont tell you because they dont want to get in the middle of it. What usually happens is they tell, the girl stays with the guy anyway and that person loses two friends. Most do cheat. Get on board with that.
2006-11-08 07:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, not everyone cheats, and anyone who tells you that is an idiot. You're not being naive. As for your question about people not telling you, they don't want to dime their boy out. If it's your friends, they don't want to hurt you. Also, they want you to figure it out for yourself. If could be that they didn't want to tell you because they didn't think you'd believe them. That's been the case with me a couple times. Also, if anyone tells you it's human nature to cheat is an idiot too.
2006-11-08 07:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone cheat but some just dont get caught. People are scared because they dont want to cause trouble
2006-11-08 07:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by slimchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experiances, it seems that your friends are too affraid to tell you what your boyfriend is doing behind your back simply because they think that you wont beleive them. Maybe that's why they dont tell you until after you dump him. Especially if you have friends that are insecure about theirselves.
2006-11-08 07:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by chevygirl6767 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to do the same thing until it happended to me and realized how much it hurt. Now I do tell, it is just not right and they will understand if it happens to them one day.
2006-11-08 07:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by Arual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because when people are in love and you rat one of them out a lot of times they wont believe you and get mad at you. when they break up they believe the truth much better.
2006-11-08 07:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋