My bf and I have been together for almost 5 years. We have had our ups and downs but lately things are really weird. We are hardly talking and when we get to see each other (I go to college 2 hours away and only come home on the weekends) all he wants to do is have sex. I feel like we are growing apart. I don't want to leave him because I love him very much and he is the first guy I've slept with, but I don't want to be in a relationship that isn't leading to marriage. What should I do? We are both 22 btw.
2006-11-08 07:09:25 · 23 answers · asked by blondiekittie713 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, you guys need to sit down and have a talk about whether or not you guys are willing to go on in the relationship (down the marriage road) or if you are just staying together because you have been with each other for so long and are afraid to leave each other. i would say just tell him your concerns for the relationship and be truthful and honest, that would be the best. and do it as soon as possible! good luck! :)
2006-11-08 07:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by ajg ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you thinking about marriage anyway, your only 22 and in college. The only reason why he want to have sex when he sees you is...
A) he misses you so much, that having sex is the most intimate thing you two can do.
B)He's having a relationship with someone else but is not having sex with them...to make it seem hes still in a relationship with you he wants to have sex.
...no matter if he was the first guy or the 100 guy you've slept with do what is right and best for you. You may love him but you should love yourself more.good luck
2006-11-08 07:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have been together that long, I would suggest living together first before you get married to see if it will really work, if you make a date night tell him you need to talk and sort things out see what the problem might be, try to keep in mind guys at that age are horn-dogs and wanna have sex all the time lay down some rules, you can't allow yourself to be used like that but let him know you still love him. Good luck
2006-11-08 07:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by dheck03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you're going through. When you get together, you feel weird at first, and he wants to be intimate, right? This is just the reality of a long-distance relationship. Maybe you should agree to date other people...I don't see it changing, after all - he's a 22 year old guy, not having sex all week!
2006-11-08 07:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down and talk to your guy. tell him that your relationship is not purely about sex. Also talk to him about marriage and the things you want in your future see if he wants those things as well. If he doesn't want those things then it would probably be best to end it. And if the problem continues after you have talked to him then again it would be best to end it. Relationships are hard work and there even harder when you don't see the person every day.
2006-11-08 07:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by Daze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to grow apart, you both have to take responsibility for that. It is natural for him to want to have sex with you, and it is also natural for you to want a connection with him. Tell him that sex isn't just a come-and-get-it thing, that he has to "put out" too, taking you on a date or whatever. Keep in mind it won't be like when you first hooked up, a lot of that happened in a context that doesn't exist any more.
2006-11-08 09:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey u are too young to be thinking about marriage. Have fun live ur life make bad decisions and then when ur ready to settle down start making the right choices. Don't sell urself short by staying with the same man expierce. Remember u only live once!
2006-11-08 07:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try to work things out. See if you can manage your time with college and your relationship. But it worst comes to worst, your career matters more than a relationship at this point.
Plus if he just wants you for sex, maybe he doesn't care about you as much as you do for him.
Think about it and make the more logical choice. Good luck.
2006-11-08 07:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by R man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and ask what the problem is. That's all you can do at this point. Don't have sex with him until you all talk. He could be busy or cheating, but either way it goes, talk to him. After 5 years, you should know whether or not he wants to marry you.
2006-11-08 07:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about the last time you gave "it" to him maybe it been a while and he is cranky bc he wants some, and if that isn't it then you should tell him how you feel, yall been together for this long maybe he is scared to commit, just sit and talk to him tell him your feelings, and listen to his, and take it from there. Yall seem like a nice couple.
2006-11-08 07:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by xxMiizzCxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋