I am currently in a relationship with a gambler (casino). i dont know if he loves the casino or me. How do I tell?
2006-11-08 07:09:12 · 7 answers · asked by Taraand Willie4EVER 1 in Games & Recreation ➔ Gambling
I too am in love with someone with a gambling problem, and a serious problem at that. The girl does not take no for an answer...my options were either I go with her or she will go by herself. This meant that I had no choice but to go so that I would have at least some small chance at controlling how much she spent. We had plenty of arguements over it...I finally realized that telling her she had a problem wasn't enough because she already knew that and it didn't bother her. Even when we lost thousands of dollars in the span of a few days...it made no difference. Anyway, my point is that I realized that I had to let her find out on her own what this problem was going to do to us if she didn't learn to control it. People with addictions of any sort a lot of times have to realize it on their own...other people telling them will not make any difference. I know it is hard, but believe that he does love you...even if he loves the casino, it doesn't change the way he feels for you. Just give it time and offer help but don't be pushy because that will just cause resentment in the end. Good luck!
2006-11-08 15:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by trouble in paradise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gambling is as devastating an addiction as drinking.. only that drinking to excess damages the body.. gambling can leave a gambler homeless.. and living in the street.. Alcoholism has to be treated by the alcoholic person realizing he or she has a problem with alcohol and then seek help.. from a support group such as the AA.. I am sure there is something similar for gamblers..a support group they can join.. Gambling has ruined a lot of lives.. not only the life of the gambler but of his or her entire family if they are married and have children. this person needs to realize how devastating this problem is and seek help,. there is no other way.. addiction is addiction , whether it's a physical or a mental addiction so only a support group can help. I am sure they have a support group for gamblers who ruined their lives and lost everything.. because there are many many people who even gamled online.. by playing cards online for money. and they lost their homes and everything over this.. so they do need a support group.. and then they probably need to spend the rest of their lives to pay back what they owe.. so the sooner they stop the better because the debts will continue to accumulate.. distraction is not enough. this is not an anxiety disorder where distraction might work.. this is a deep rooted addiction and really needs help from professionals and best is a support group instead of a councellor one on one.. in a support group they will hear other horror stories of other people whose life was wrecked through gambling which may give the gambler more incentive to stop.. with the help of the group..
2016-05-21 22:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you and the casino are two different things, completely different aspects of his life. He probably feels that you are both equally important, which is a hugely bad sign of addiction.
Its always tough to be around someone with addiction, drugs, alcohol, gambling, whatever. My mom was an alcoholic and when I was young I always wondered why she chose to be drunk over spending time with me - does this mean that she loved alcohol more than me? No. She just didn't have the will to fight her addiction.
When your BF is open to it you should discuss it with him. I've found that Gamblers are really hard to reach, my brother is a gambler, and will absolutely not admit that he has a problem (never mind the fact that he is 23 and living with our grandparents) OMG are you dating my brother?
2006-11-08 07:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by t433_sd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a gambling addict or a compulsive gambler, he will always choose gambling over you, even if he loves you to the ends of the universe. A gambling addict will always, ultimately, choose gambling over you. He will choose gambling over you if it's your birthday, your parents' anniversary, or if your future children's college education is at stake. He will choose gambling over the security of your house and home. You do not need any of this.
2006-11-08 07:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Obvious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His gambling does not mean that he doesn't love you. If you really love him try helping him through this gambling addiction. If he really loves you, he will accept your assistance with his gambling issue. Try not to be too pushy though. Nobody likes to hear that they have a problem.
2006-11-08 07:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gambling is like any other addiction, it will always come first, always.
2006-11-08 07:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dose he drink then you have a problem tell him to give you $100 and bet him you can spend it all in one store!
2006-11-08 07:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Harbor R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋