Why are some parents scared of spanking their kids???

Question

Think about it, todays kids are way worse than they used to be, mostly because parents are too scared to hit them...why???

Answer 1

What will happen is that parent will have child care services called on them. Then the child will be taken away and you face jail time. Blame it on society.

Answer 2

As far as being afraid to spank thier kids, it's probably the perfect parents that want to call social services every time they see a parent disciplining thier child. Spanking doesn't work on all children, just the vast majority of them. So yes there is some relation to the way kids are acting these days. A lack of discipline period is a large part of it. I suppose when it became unacceptable to spank a child, a lot of folks just gave up entirely. I wonder why? Maybe it just became impossible to control thier children. It's alright, the perfect parents (with and without children) will figure something out before it gets much worse. Wait a second, oh, they say it's no worse than it's ever been.

Answer 3

First of all, there is a huge difference between abuse and spanking.
I was a very rebellious/belligerent child from the get-go. Suspension or putting me in a "time out" didn't work; I would just defy them and walk right back out. Because of this, everyone spanked me... my grandfather said that he spanked me more than all his children and grandchildren put together. I believe if they had not spanked me, I would have ended up in prison or worse. As it is, I have had zero infractions of the law in my life (not even a speeding ticket). But, they also gave me lots and lots of positive reinforcement (that is just as important). I love them with all my heart and I'm so glad they wailed on my bottom... I really needed it.
Those people who give those rubbishy arguments against spanking don't have a clue. I have a super high self-esteem and spanking didn't teach me to hit... I got spanked for hitting people. Look at how the children are ending up these days. Just how many school shootings, violence, rebellion, etc. have we had from children who were not spanked? As people quit spanking more and more, these things will continually go up more and more. Just look at the statistics from back in the days when people spanked.
And by the way, “Spare the rod and spoil the child” is a line by the
17th century English poet Samuel Butler, not the Bible. The Bible says, "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him" (Proverbs 13:24).

Answer 4

I am a mom of 4 kids (1 year old boy, 3 year old girl, 7 year old boy, and 9 year old girl) and all 3 of the older kids have been spanked by me, and so far only my 9 year old, has been spanked by my husband.

We are not afraid to spank, and my husband and I agree 100% with you that parents today are just too afraid to actually discipline their kids. That's because the laws designed to protect actual REAL child abuse like broken bones, cuts, burns, etc, were twisted and distorted to the extent, that if a parent so much as looks at their child the wrong way they are in danger of being investigated and having their kids taken away.

The laws which were proper in the beginning have now become so perverted that kids have no fear of the consequences of their misbehavior. They know that if they act up the most that can happen is they sit in time-out for a few minutes or go without TV for a few days.It means nothing to them!

It's not like the healthy fear that comes when you've acted up, and you hear the belt sliding out from Dad's pant loops, or you see Mom walking in with her wooden hairbrush. That is a healthy fear that prevents misbehavior, which most kids today don't have.

Just take a look at the schools.Paddling was taken out from the schools, and now most schools are in chaos.

Then spanking became less common in the home, and in many families the kids boss around their parents, and treat them like dogs, and the parents, afraid to really discipline their kids by spanking, let their terrors run all over them.

Well, my husband and I refuse to raise our kids to be like that. We both believe in spanking and other corporal punishment, and we are not afraid to use it.

We have also told our kids, that though they may be told at school, and by their friends or whoever, that they can report us for spanking them, that they have to keep in mind something. That if they report being spanked, then they have to face the fact that they could be taken away from us, and put somewhere that's even worse.

Our kids know that as long as they live in our home, and/or our being supported by us in any way, they will be subject to our rules, and our discipline (including the use of spanking). They understand that spankings are a possibility for misbehavior, and they accept it.

Answer 5

I live on a military base in a foreign country. We have to follow community standards. I'm an American but I have to follow different laws than you. For example, if I'm caught on base wearing a t-shirt with profanity, I can get in big trouble. One of our community standards states that it is illegal to use any kind of force on a child other than an open handed swat on the bottom. Anything more is considered abuse. If my child were to wiggle and I hit his thigh instead of his butt, it is seen as abuse and if someone were to witness this, I'd be facing some serious problems. Even grabbing a child by their arm is considered abuse. It has been specifically stated that the swat on the bottom is it. And I've seen this enforced. People WILL report you and an investigation WILL take place and I've seen parents have their children taken away until they've completed parenting classes and therapy.

Plus, there are more effective ways to deal with bad behavior. We rarely spank our kids and they are both very well behaved for the most part. We never have a problem in public because they know what to expect and what i expect from them.

Answer 6

Parents are scared to spank their children, they are scared that the children will call CPS each and every time they do! While we have a foster child and aren't allowed to spank him, I can just say thank God that he is the type who rarely does anything remotely to get a spanking I can't even remember the last time I had to put him in the corner! He is a good kid...as for todays children, it's the parents that spoil them (I am at fault to).

Answer 7

Were not, You can say our family would fit right in with the 50s. We are very strong in family values, morals, and consequences which among other things include spankings.

As a parent you need to have a sort of H bomb of punishment such as spanking. I don't mean beating the tar out of them & leaving them black and blue, but mind you I don't mean a few swats either, I am talking about a spanking right out of the 50s pants/underwear down over the lap for a good long time. IMHO there is not need to spank if it's not going to be done the right way.

Answer 8

I would never hit my children and it has nothing to do with being scared. I think parents who spank are completely uneducated about child development. I would never use this lazy form of parenting and have never hit my children. My children are happy, respectful, intelligent and very well behaved. You think that if you don't spank, children will turn out bad? Problems in children do not stem from no spanking, there are many other factors.One big one is passive parenting with no structure, rules, neglect, hitting and biting back. Spanking actually contributes to aggression, insecurities and fearfulness. Typical person you are thinking this is why kids are worse today than before. Such a generalization and subjective question. Let me guess... You haven't done any research on the effects of spanking. You obviously don't love and respect children and are very old fashioned. Were you spanked and turned out fine??? Yah right. I bet you are perfect....

Answer 9

Every generation thinks kids are worse than they used to be. I highly doubt that fear of spanking is causing a shift for the worse in our children. It's not fear, it's education - parents are simply more aware that spanking is a bad idea. It is an outlet for the parent to vent frustration, not a benefit in disciplining a child. I don't care who you are, the risk is ALWAYS there that the spanking will get out of control.

The whole, "spare the rod, spoil the child" thing makes me sick. I truly feel sorry for the children of anyone who still holds up this archaic quote to try to justify violence. The bible says a lot of things that followers don't take literally in this day and age. You are just too lazy to give appropriate discipline to your child, so you hit them.

Answer 10

I don't have a problem spanking my kids. They are very well behaved and use their manners with or with out me. And they know that if they don't do what they are suppose to then they are getting a spanking. I don't have to do it very often. It just takes a couple of times for it to sink into their heads that they are going to get a spankin and if they do as they are suppose to they won't get one. I have spent time with my daughter at her school and it's funny how you can tell the kids that get disciplined and the ones that don't. I think the reason parents are afraid to spank their children is because today's society looks down on it and refers to it as abuse. Apparently they don't know what the meaning of abuse. Spanking does not leave marks, especially bruising (which in my opinion is abuse) Leaving marks on a child would be abuse. Kids are just out of control and the parents are to blame. Teachers can't even punish children in their classes because they are scared of being sued. How can we expect our children to learn if there is no control over the classroom? I think teachers should have the right to spank children too. And you know another funny thing is when they took prayer and spankings out of the schools is when the shootings started and all of the hatred between kids came about. In my opinion they should bring prayer and spankings back into the schools for our children's safety and well being.

Answer 11

Maybe the parents are afraid they will hurt the children because they are so angry they might not be able to control themselves."Todays kids" are worse because the parenting is worse. I see too many parents not setting bounderies for their kids,not taking quality time with them to explain what is proper behavior,giving in to the childs every whim(and tantrum),having no structure and no discipline. Spanking makes a child more aggressive and harder to handle.Why would a parent want to inflict pain on their child that they love so dearly? Spanking is cruel and ineffective.