I am in a unhealthy relationship where I am being played by my boyfriend and his female friend who I believe is sleeping with him. She also has a boyfriend but I feel that my boyfriend is just keeping me around until he develops a strong enought relationship with her or when she is free. There work out together, talk on im, phone. I want to break up with him very badly but I love him and feel totally obsessed with him cheating. I can't trust him because I feel it in my gut that he is cheating. I have no proof and this drives me crazy!!!! He told me he wantes me to trust him etc. etc. and that he cares does not want to break up but I can't take it anymore.
I was cheated on in my last relationship and this is just so devestating that it is happening again. but I feel like they are both laughing at me behind my back. I feel like such a fool
How can i break free without feeling the pain. How do I get out of this without having an emotional breakdown....I am just so tired of it all!!
2006-11-08 07:02:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may need to pray and keep busy when he is not around
2006-11-08 07:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by cutiepie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A real friend will not do this to you, so you have to count your loss with your friend as well as this man. Why, because you have to have a standard of what type of relationship you would like to have, and if they are not complying with your standard then its best to move on with all of your pieces. You deserve to have 100% of your mates emotions if the relationship is exclusive. Sit down with him, tell him how you feel, and if he wants you, he will show you in actions what you deserve.
Good Luck!
2006-11-08 07:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by jman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have already made up your mind about leaving him - you want out - get out - do it before he does it to you...you dont even have to give him a reason - im sure deep down he knows why, so just toughen up and let him go .... better to be happy than miserable in your relationship.....besides time will tell all .....you sound like your pretty tough, an emotional breakdown can be avoided if you decide that you are not going to worry about it anymore.... good luck with that..
2006-11-08 07:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. if you have a gut feeling that he is cheating.............THEN HE IS.
I didn't want to trust my gut when my son's father was cheating on me and I had to find out 2 months before i had my baby that my gut was right.
Please....hurry up and break up with this guy, change your phone numbers, go somewhere that you know he won't come to look for you and get you back.
You need time to get over him.
He's cheating, it may not necessarily be with her, but if that is what your gut says then...........TRUST YOUR GUT.
2006-11-08 07:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Perfect 78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him, and keep reminding yourself how much of a (bleep) he is. Try not to give him any thoughts other than what's wrong with him. If you think about good things (if there ARE any), you'll just ruin yourself. If you see him and start second guessing yourself, again, remind yourself of why you broke up with him. He is NOT worth using all that brain power.
2006-11-08 07:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard to just walk away but it's up to you to make that choice not any of ours other women love man that have other women because it make's them feel like they are inportant and feel special it's true i have to say they do have something going on if he call's her on your phone that means he does not care what you think .
if you can't be #1 in his life and he can't tell her i have a girlfriend i love so please don't call or im me then it's time for you to move on the longer you wait the harder it get's
2006-11-08 07:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by and687 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can we do ?
Is there anyplace you can hide
Is there an abused women's shelter
Call the District Attorney's Office, tell them you have no money
and is there a abused women's shelter
good luck
mister bill
2006-11-08 07:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IN THIS SITUATION YOUR GONNA FEEL THE PAIN OF THE BREAK-UP BECAUSE OF YOUR LOVE FOR HIM. BUT AT THE SAME TIME THAT LOVE HAS BLINDED YOU TO STAY WITH HIM REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE DOES. THEY ARE PLAYING YOU, AND LAUGHING AT YOU. BREAK IT OFF NOW BEFORE IT GETS WORSE AND MORE PAINFUL
2006-11-08 07:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by kurtball2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop. control yourself and your emotions. stop talking to him. accept that it may hurt but vow to get through it. imagine how good you'll feel when you're done with this loser. be done today
2006-11-08 07:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think that..... try to make him jealous by dating someone else and see how long before he cracks.
2006-11-08 07:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋