Did you ever have anyone act like your two year old was the worst in the world?

Question

My parents, my husband's parents, strangers- everyone all seem to act like my 2 year old is the worst kid they've ever seen.... she does throw tantrums and when she's tired she will cry and scream a lot... and she's started throwing stuff when it's not what she wants...but is my kid really that bad?!

Answer 1

Dear, Being a parent is the toughest job in the world. These little darlings do not come with manuals. Terrible two's got that name for a reason. She's your child & you love her. Still maybe it is time to hear what is being said. Maybe there is wisdom in some of these words. Discipline must start at an early age. Otherwise you wind up with an undiscipined 10 yr old, & then that child has aa real big problem not just you. Allowing her to think that bad behavior is acceptable is telling her a lie, in fact. Teaching discipline & correcting their behavior now is time consuming & hard but if you don't she will become socially unexceptible. Rough on a kid. May you need to talk to somebody about this. Your mother & his mother have been there already & went through this. Sit down and talk to them. Sometimes advice helps. You won't feel so alone in this thing.

Answer 2

My sister's kids are the same way and no one wants to be around them. She's always making excuses for them and she gets mad at everyone else. She even makes the excuse for her 8 YEAR OLD being a brat, saying he's tired or hungry,etc. My daughter is the same age and she doesn't act anything CLOSE to how those kids do.
If other people are telling you these things, there IS an issue, and your kid IS being abnormally obnoxious. Yes, there are certain things a 2 year old will do that drive you nuts, but there are some kids that are such brats that people can't stand them. The sad thing is the parent is so used to being around them, they take it as 'normal' personality behavior of the child, while everyone else can actually see how horrible the kid is behaving.
Maybe you should ask for specifics and start putting a stop to these behaviors and stop and think of how your daughter will be once she starts school if you let her behavior continue.
You don't want her to not have friends because she's so mean and no one can stand her.

Answer 3

I'm sure she's not horrible as many 2 year olds are this way, but don't use the excuse "she's just a kid" or "she's tired" even though it may be true sometimes. She still needs to be disciplined as you see fit. In her 2's it won't seem like the discipline is working, but keep at it and it will pay off in the 3's or 4's. If you let her get away with the throwing and tantrums she'll do it waaaay too long.

Answer 4

No, probably not. I've had that experience before too. People that aren't in the midst of raising a 2 year old don't know that most of this behavior is completely normal. However, now is the time to start redirecting her behavior. Keeping in mind that at times she may be extremely tired or sick, if she does things that are completely inappropriate I don't think it is uncalled for to say "I don't want to hear your screaming, you can take a time out to calm down." and then follow through by putting her in a time out place, - her room, a playpen in a different room that she can't get out of, for a few minutes or until she calms down a little, no more than 5 minutes. And if she throws things, take them away and say, very nicely "If you throw your toy (or whatever) than you can't have it." Most of all, if she always seems to have problems when she is tired, try hard to make sure she gets a nap and goes to bed at a good time to get the sleep she needs. Good luck, I've been there.

Answer 5

People who don't have kids don't understand what it is like to have children. People who have grown up children tend to forget how bad their children were one day ( and yes this includes our parents too). Ignore what ppl think about your daughter, try not to pass this onto her, you don't want her to grow up being really concerned about what ppl think if her. About your daughter, I don't see her any diffirenet than 99% of the chikdren I have seen in my life. You just need to figure out a way that works best to control her tantrums. I takes some time, but you'll get there at some point. She is old enough to be disciplened in whichever way you believe is appropriate for her the key is to be consistent. Good Luck.

Answer 6

All 2 year olds act bratty. But if a lot of people are commenting then maybe they do have a point. See what behaviors you can work on with your daughter and correct them. If people aren't actually saying anything but you are sensing the judgement, then maybe it isn't really happening. We all get paranoid about our kids' behavior but a lot of times it bothers us more than it bothers anyone else.

Answer 7

2 year old are 2 year olds. Some people have a very low tolerance for kids. Don't take it personal.

Answer 8

I thought that about others kids, then I got a 2 year old and realized I was completely wrong!

Answer 9

Yes! My sister would always tell me what I'm doing wrong and what I need to do until her little one reached that age. Now, I just sit back and laugh!! My motto is dont sweat the small stuff, it will slowly get better.

Answer 10

shes just testing you . stand your ground and don't let her get away with it. she is old enough for time outs and to be told no. stand strong and don't let her get by you and she will be fine. she is not a bad girl shes just two all two yearolds are like this. just don't let her get away with it. good luck .