Am I out of order?

Question

You will all judge me for this. I was seeing my best friends step son for about a year. I'm 30 and he is 18. I know its a bad connection but isn't it up to us if we like eachother?

Answer 1

NO, its not. He is a baby still. He has soooooooooo much growing up to do. What can he possibly offer you? Nothing. I am 30, and there is NO WAY I would go for an 18 yr old. They are still growing and learning, and experiencing. He has a lot of dating to do, he is in no way ready to settle down like you are. He would only resent you for it if he did. He has so many girls his own age to meet still. YES, I feel the same way about 18 yr old girls. NO I don't think that 30-40 yr old men should be dateing them and or marrying them. I think thats wrong. I see you dating a guy that is 25-26-27 but 18? I don't get it. In 15 yrs if you and him are still together, he is going to still be YOUNG and you are going to be close to your 50's, gaining weigtht, losing your eyesight, and insecure on if he is still physically attracted to you. Is this really what you want? I don't.

Besides, you say he is your best friends step-son? How could you? No this should not be up to you and him. You aren't thinking with a straight mind, you are thinking with a lonely one obviously. Your best friend I can imagine is NO longer your best friend, and I don't blame her, I wouldn't have anything to do with you either. This KID was 17 yrs old not long ago and was 16 not long before that. He is a KID. He has no clue about real life and you are taking advantage of his youth and his being nieve in his young life. You are horrid for doing this. This isn't smart at all. You will get hurt and he will resent you. Sorry, I side with your best friend. If he was my son........... I would do everything I could to keep you from him. Step-son or blood son. It wouldn't matter. Blessed be..............

Answer 2

Just b/c he's legal doesn't make it right. How does your best friend feel about the situation? I mean in the end it is up to you all if you like each other, but............I wouldn't think this relationship would be too serious, esp. since he's just starting to know himself and women. And also think about it from your friend's point of view if she was dating your stepson, how would you feel and why? It's not about judging you, it's about waiting til the person is old enough to deal with the emotional impact that having an older woman.

But on the other hand, if you two are both mature consenting adults who understand everything that's going to happen and the judgments people are going to make and still want things to work out, then go for it. Age ain't nothing but a number.

Answer 3

yeah it is- it's really up to you who you choose to date- some young guys don't even look their age. My little brother is 17 and he looks like he'
s 30- he lifts weights and has a crazy mustache. Don't worry about what people think. Whne he's 30 you'll be about 40 just keep your body in shape so you can look good with him

Answer 4

Well the good thing is he is legal, but you will still catch some heat from your best-friend for defiling her son behind her back

Answer 5

If it feels good, do it. I dated a 38 yo when I was 24. It was one of the funnest relationships of my life. Don't let anyone sway your opinion.

Answer 6

..........there's nothing wrong with that, but it's more suited for the short term, rather than the long term, because the age difference is just to wide......Have fun and enjoy it, but eventually the young man will need to experience more than just 1 or 2 woman in his life.......

Answer 7

i don't judge you atall.
it's your decision.
age isn't a factor i don't think unless it gets in the way for you personally.