HELP....whenever my 2 year old acts up I will?

Question

give him a paddle on the bare butt or smack his hands, the thing is now, whenever me and my guy get into a fight he accuses me of "beating" our child...and threatens to use this against me if need be.
What do I DO???
I dont want to be accused of something I dont do, but I also dont want my kid to end up a helion.
Whose right here???

Answer 1

There are other ways to discipline your young toddler, such as positive reinforcement (rewarding him with hugs, kisses, juice, etc when he does good things), and taking things away from him when he does the wrong things (such as taking markers, pens, toys, cartoons, etc). But you must be consistent if you try this approach. -Janet

Answer 2

There is nothing illegal with a bare bottom spanking, even with a paddle, depending on where you live. We don't use a paddle but the pants do come down. The law in most states (and myself) defines a illegal spanking as one that leaves a permanent mark such as a blister, bruise, welt.. other then a temporary red bottom. Also the spanking must only be on the bottom. Since I am not a lawyer you might want to speak with one in your state or country, who can advise you of your rights.

I provided a link with every states law in regards to physical discipline. Still talk to a lawyer where you live

Answer 3

Try to only use spanking if all else fails. (after taking a previlage or favorite toy away; 2-3 minutes in the corner) Don't even give him a reason to think you are "beating" him. Try other ways of disapline.

My 1 & 3 year olds can't stand the corner thing. I let them know that their minute(s) start when they stop cring. Their nose MUST stick in the crack of the corner. BE CONSISTANT! If they get out of the corner, talk/cry, sit, etc. their time starts over.

DISAPLINE TIPS:
Try not to yell. All they know is that your are yelling and they don't comprehend ANYTHING else

Make sure they have eye contact with your eyes when telling them what they did wrong. Make sure they understand, even if you have to use kiddy words.

Turn off any TV, music, Video Games, etc. to be sure they get your full attention. Often they just agree when their focus is on something else.

Make sure when you get done with your talk, ask them if they understand and teach them to say, "YES Mamm/Sir, NO Mamm/Sir"....GOT to teach them to respect you and other adults.

Take something to THEIR VALUE away until the attitude has adjusted to YOUR satisfaction. AND yes a 2 year old can understand, this is when their brains are like sponges!

Good Luck MOM.
E-mail me if you need any more help or just need to talk. Don't let your man, get to you. Men just always throw up some Bull
Sh!t to get you aggrevated. They like to see how mad you can get. Half the time they don't even mean what they say.No one can't say who is right, b/c they don't see what actually goes on. Stand your ground, and remember not to let your anger towards someone else be upon your child. Gut down your frustration, but talk plainly and seriously to get your point across to your child.

Answer 4

Oh boy....

I will get my son's ear and pinch the fool out of it when necessary. I don't like to spank but will as a last resort. However, I don't believe that drippy-sweet discipline works worth a S*** either! So many people scream abuse and child beatings nowadays that it's almost to a point where a parent is loosing the right to discipline their own child.

Answer 5

No one is right here... both of you need a new approach.

Sometimes those little ones need a good smack on the bottom, but not constantly. There are so many other ways to get your child to behave!

You and your "Guy"" need to get on the same discipline page ASAP! If you don't your little one is gonna manipulate that (if he isn't already)

Get together, and get a plan that you both agree with...

Answer 6

In my opinion, spanking should be used only for severe or repeated actions. You said that you paddle him "whenever" he acts up. I think there are other ways to go about discipline before you get to the point of spanking. Also, if you do spank your child, it should never be with an object.

Answer 7

I personally don't believe in the whole hitting thing as disapline. My brother and i turnedout to be great kids and we were never hit by our parents once, but some kids are way out of control. I don't think your husband or boyfriend should accuse u of abusing ur son so maybe you should talk to him about it and let him know how you feel.

Answer 8

I wouldn't go as far as saying you beat your child, however there are much better alternatives than spanking. Have you heard of the book/video "Magic 1-2-3", if not I suggest you get it. Wonderful alternative to spanking and IT WORKS.

Answer 9

a short paddling on the keister or on the hands is not "child abuse" so...tell this palooka that is acting as a turkey to

BITE ME "my child my choice of discipline" watch how fast he backs down i was raised up getting swats in a lot of the same manner as you are giving your kid when he/ /she acts up clen up to the time i went active military after high-school graduation remember the child is yours and so is the job of discipline

Answer 10

Leave the guy. Devote all of your time to your child. Maybe your child is just craving the attention you are giving your rotten man. Maybe there is a reason your child is acting up, is his/her real father in the picture? Maybe your child doesn't care for the guy that you are with. I say that children are a good judge of character. Good luck as parenting is very difficult.

Answer 11

You are a good Mom!! Do it if you need to. Paddle and beating are not the same.. Bad moms beat and good Moms paddle and with love