anyone ever felt enraged by something a family member has said or done?

Question

can you give examples please of things that have REALLY wound you up, and what you did about it

Answer 1

Yes, my youngest brother, 12 years my junior, was a school teacher. In 1998 he was arrested for molestation of three girls (two were his students). He plead to the charges and went to jail for four years (not long enough).

You see, I had been molested as a child, not by a teacher but that mattered little. And, I work with many women and even some men who were molested as a child. I became so angry that I made myself ill.

Everyone in my family suffered horribly. My parents, in shame, not knowing who or what to believe (they know now its true) spent every weekend going to see in him prison. They had just retired and their retirement plans were blown away. Even if we wanted to have a family event and have them miss a weekend, he would cry and manipulate them into going. They went from happy and healthy people (in their 60s) to tired and aged by the time he got out.

I have gotten help for my mom and she now accepts what happened and that she is in no way to blame.

My poor neice and nephew had to go into that awful place to visit their dad. He deserved it, they did not. After he got out they were not allowed to see him at all. To make matters worse, they lied to my neice about why he was gone.

The rest of us also suffered because our family was torn asunder and our children and grandchildren were deprived of their grandparents as well.

And his victims...well, their lives are a mess.

I have come to terms with it and forgiven him, but never will I forget. He stole my parents good years, he hurt his own children emotionally, and three girls out there will NEVER be the same.

Answer 2

When my daughter graduated from college we all went to a resturant we had reservations and I split the bill with my ex and his father. I found out later that my sister said I had been " very ill" to the waitress. She said this because I told the waitress to mind her own business regarding A BOWL OF ICE CREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My bratty little sister age 46 had the nerve to apoligize to a waitress making sure that that it was implied I had mental problems. What did I do about it ?? I remembered why I steer clear of her. I intend to not speak to her for the next 10 years. I am serious! She tried to picked a fight with me the next day. I told her I would talk to her in 5 years. She said I was being dramatic. So added another 5. I have gone years without speaking to her. I am grateful she lives 4 hours away.

Answer 3

I feel very enraged by a lot of things that family members have done but the one that makes me more angry than anything is:-
I was sexualy abused and raped by my brother in law (before they got married). It took a lot of courage to come forward and tell a teacher. Sadly I didnt do this untill after they got married. She told my mum, who told my dad. Social services were involved, I had a police interview but it was decided that without the support of my parents not a lot could be done. You see my dad said that he didnt beleive me and it even said in my social services files (I have read them) that he would disown me and pay his (my brother in laws) court ans solicitors fees, if it went to court. My nan told me I was gelous of my sister and had brought shame on the family.
It has since turned out that he slept with, my mum, my aunty, my sisters best friend (and Im sure the list goes on) so they seperated and got divorced.
They had four children and sadly it has emerged that he has tried to sexualy assault one of them. My sister who never believed me cant even bring herself to tell me, it would be like addmitting that I was right after all. See if they would have listened to me all those years ago then none of this would have happened, but hey what the hell, I was just deemed a problem child.
I still have contact with my family but I will never forget, and never forgive the way they dealt with it. I now have a loving husband and three lovely children who are my world and I vow never to put them through what I went through. Together we can all make this world a better place.

Answer 4

I had to work for a my uncle once, but after several weeks of proper Slavery and abuse. Covered in mud and having to carry heavy objects that no one else was asked to move, I was a little tense!
He then proceeded to tell me in front of other family members and workers, that I was lazy and that now I was slowing others down. He also said that I had spent all day on my mobile, when all I was doing was listening to MP3's whilst working
Need less to say I told him that slavery had ended and that he could Pi22 0ff and shove his job up his bum! He later phoned my father to tell him that he thought he had said something wrong! ( No Sh1t Sherlock.)
Boy it felt good and I have not spoken to him since. Phallic head that he is.

Answer 5

My sister and I fell out 3months ago and haven't really spoken since.

We fell out over the fact that she couldn't go to the shop for our Dad without complaining and making him feel crap for having to ask her to do it in the first place.

I said alot of hurtful things in reply to alot of hurtful things she said to me etc.... And it escalated from there into a full blown hair puller of a fight where i ended up with alot of my hair on the floor and a scar on my arm where she scratched me like an old cat.

The other day she asked me if I was going to apologize to her were I replied, was she going to apologize to me and that ended in another row between us.

So I have come to the conclusion just not to speak to her or answer her when she asks a stupid question again.

Answer 6

I am very detached from my family, I used to be flabbergasted by them; but they are only human[sick deranged humans], and today I am just thankful I march to my own drummer! My mother was extremely cruel to my sister, often. I had rage and guilt because I could not protect my sister, I was to busy watching out for my own interests. It was a sick and dysfunctional situation! I have no contact with my mother or any of my sisters! My life is a lot better without them!

Answer 7

My brother said the most ugly things to me right after my son was killed Like wasn't a good mother to my son, and that my son didn't love me all this and more trying to get control over his things. I wanted to kill him but I didn;t, I just wiped him out of my life for about 7 years.I refused to speak to him if I ran into him at my parents house or anyone Else's house.then I prayed to God to help me to let go of my hatred of him. And on Christmas day 2004 I wished him a merry Christmas's and meant it.

Answer 8

My dad ran off with a slag 9 yrs ago, she was only just older than me, I was 21 at the time.
He left my mum with 5 kids the youngest of us was 1 yr old!!

He has tried to come back into our lives since but neither me or my 4 brothers have spoke to him since and don't intend to!

You made your bed dad lie in it!!!

Answer 9

Ex hubby left me to bleed to death-wouldn't call me an ambulance-Took over an hour of pleading and to cut a long story short I was a gonner-Took 5 hours of emergancy surgery and removal of a 450 g blood clot.

Needless to say I divorced him

Answer 10

It may sound funny to you but when my daughter was 3 I had her hair cut short and my sister-in-law suggested I put a paper bag over her head....
My girl is 34 now with lovely long hair but I have never forgotten it.