Still in love after almost three years!!?

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Still in love after almost three years!!?
I dated this guy like almost three and a half years ago. We broke up in 1 month and I never got a clear reason why. Now, after almost three years, I still think about him aand wish we could get back together. What's strange is that I have had quite a few other relationships and was even married with children once and I never had intense feelings like I have for this one. Please give me some feedback. I don't have an inkling as to why this man is still on my mind after all that time. I feel like I'm crazy for feeling this way. BTW He's married now, but I still can't shake these feelings. Please enlighten me on this matter. It's driving me insane!! I don't want this man in my head or my heart anymore, but my feelings won't go away!!! WHY? HELP ME TO UNDERSTAND!!

Thanks for your answers! Some are so touching I'm in tears right now!! :*-( Please keep the answers coming.

Answer 1

I know how it feels, I am in a relationship now with the best guy i could ever be with we have been together almost 5 years, and I still find myself wondering about my first love. Me and my first love were together for only 2 and 1/2 years and he was my first everything. I know deep down i still have feelings for him and i always wonder about him. I know i shouldnt be doing that, but i cant help it, i guess he still has some place deep in my heart. As for you i think that you still have a special place in your heart for this guy. Dont let it bother you i think its all part of how special this guy was for you, just be thankful and happy that he is having a great life, and that he is married be happy for him. I am sure that he probably still thinks about you as much as you do him. Maybe you never know what holds in the future. SO dont lose hopes of this guy and dont lose hopes on finding another guy. god only knows whom your soulmate is. I wish the best for you. god bless you

Answer 2

Hi, I have been through that same delima once, I think it's lust...Maybe when ya'll seperated your lust was still strong for him and you never completly got over him.I think the best thing to do is to leave it alone because the more you think about it, the more your gonna wonder, why? I thought I would never find somebody else, but I did and better!!Maybe there is someone that will suprise you out there.Keep your head up and Good Luck.