i went on the first date with her monday and she said it was the best date she had in over 7 months, and i told her it only gets bettter. when we are around each other everything was ok but when we get on the phone theres just not that much to talk about and we are just sittn there breathing most of the time. and thats not good startn out when ur trien to start datn somone officially. what can i do to keep things interesting and keep the conversation goin until we can go on a second date? im 20 and she is 18 if that helps. what can i do?? thx for everything
2006-11-08 06:33:25 · 9 answers · asked by xtremecrakhed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of two simple questions-
What was the most interesting part of your day?
or
What was the most interesting thing you did today?
Don't ask
how was your day?
The first two questions are great. She know the answer. She has to think about it. And it will bring her back to the best part of her day, associating it with you.
These questions are also great because its not a yes or no answer, she has to think about it and her answer can offer many verbal handles to grab onto and keep the conversation alive. Just be genuinely interested and she will do a lot of the talking.
2006-11-08 06:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check this. you need to talk generally on dates, more in depth on the phone. studies (and personal experience) proves that a major flaw with continuing relationships and the first date, is that you two exhaust alot of the subject matter for Number 2. you need to pace yourself. a good way to have a phone conversation is to start off general... How are you, How was your day, What's new, etc.,. then, branch into something she said. really, that happened so soon? i can't believe it. no, i didn't know that. stuff like that, to branch out. by the way, when you feel a conversation slowly drying up, already be formulating a reason to hang up, whether it be "I'm tired, see you tomorrow", or "I have alot of Hw to do", or, in bad times, "I gotta go, my sister's on the other line." have one of those handy. limit conversations to an hour to start, and work your way up. the awkward breathing thing should disappear.
2006-11-08 14:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by Luv Docta Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, Some people are not phone people, and if both of you aren't well thats not to good. Maybe you guys can email instead of Talk on the phone. may sound cheesy, but thats what people did in the old days, wrote letters to each other. Also, be yourself cause the "Truth" always comes out in the long run.
2006-11-08 14:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ask her about her interests : politics, theatre, current events, hobbies etc.
you don't have to talk all the time to enjoy each other's company
maybe have a movie date where she picks three movies that she likes and you pick one of out the three to watch, pop up some yummy popcorn, fluff up a few pillows, and get ready for a great comdey or drama....that might ease up on some of the conversational issues..then when it is done talk about what you liked or what actor you admire etc. that might be fun for both of you
have you all ever tried outdoor sports? throw a frisbee around in the fresh air!
good luck!
2006-11-08 14:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by BOOYAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just aren't good on the phone together. Me and my boyfriend (of three years) very rarely have long good conversations on the phone but we have a blast and talk about everything and anything when we are together. Instead of talking on the phone a lot send her some cute witty text messages...
2006-11-08 14:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by bree_1384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about favorites and stuff. dont try to make conversation, it should just come naturally. discuss how eachothers day went and that will usually spark a conversation and go from there.
2006-11-08 14:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by geoffzaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1,BASICALLY WHEN UR ON THE PHONE..ITS UR TIME TO ASK ALL THE QUESTIONS IN THE WORLD!! U ASK ABOUT EVERYTHING..HER SISTERS/BROTHERS..SCHOOL...JUST EVERYTHING, IT WILL ALWAYS BE INTERESTING AND PLUS UR LEARNING ABOUT HER AND HOW SHE OPENS UP TO U.
#2, JUST TRY TO SWITCH THINGS UP. NOT JUST THE USUAL DINNER AND A MOVIE. TRY SKATING..BOWLING..THINGS LIKE THAT..
2006-11-08 14:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by Virgo Fa Sho!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk about simliar interests and do alot of fun stuff and things. ask her about her family and past and what she wants to be when she grows up
2006-11-08 14:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself!
2006-11-08 14:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋