please help me????

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years and he seems to be getting bored with the relationship: not doing the same things he used to do?? Ladies or men...how do I get the control back in my relationship to make him want me as much as before if not even more?? I want him to basically SWEAT me again...I don't want to lose him...

Answer 1

GIRL YOU HAVE TO FIND SOMETHING THAT WILL SPICE UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP..MAYBE U'RE SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME TOGETHER. SO TAKE A BREAK, BUY SOME LINGERIE, CHOCOLATE, AND CHAMPAGNE, MAKE SOME DINNER, TELL HIM HOW YOU WANT EVERYTHING TO BE SEXY AND SPONTANEOUS LIKE IT WAS 6 YEARS AGO..THEN PUT IT ON HIM!!! LOL.

Answer 2

Sounds like it's gotten stale.
6-7 yrs is usually like that. (Ever heard of the seven year itch?)
You were prolly like bunnies for a long time.
Now don't know where to go with that part and others.

Creativity is the answer. Even the best things can get in a rut.
Hey it's been 6 yrs... You afraid of doing something silly for him?
He'd prolly just laugh and love you the more for trying.
It can be quite fun. Doesn't have to be raunchy but can be.
Do somthing he would NO WAY expect of you.
Get this going and you may find out he has some clever ideas that he has been afraid of.

Keep him guessing love. A new adventure at least once a month.

Answer 3

It does not need to be a complicated. Mostly the big things are what bother guys little things sometimes but not as often as you probably. Any way the big things to guys are sex and respect and not always in that order he has to know that he will always be respected by you as well as the sex always being good and getting better. if you think you have already done everything then your just to lazy to find something new. I know it works both ways but that's not what your asking so don't think I'm trying to be a jerk please. If you can keep things interesting then guys have no reason to go it's not that hard if you really care enough to make someone you love happy.
I wish you luck and a long happy relationship

Answer 4

did u ever watch the movie "the Joy Luck Club"?

there is a character named Rose.. she is chinese, and she falls in love w/ a white guy. at first he LOVES that she is outspoken, strong, smart....but when they get married, she starts acting and doing what she "thinks" is a dutiful wife..and he gets bored, irritated, and depressed because he's not attracted to her anymore. one day, she decides she's not going to take any more crap, and throws him out of the house. and THAT is when he sees her fire again, and THAT is when they realize that they were doing what they thought husbands and wife "should" do, without listening to what they Needed to do to Grow and Nurture their love.

trust me, the more needy and "desperate" and clingy u get, the less attractive u are! u need to work on yourself to be a Beautiful, Strong, Independent, Great Woman...and that will make any guy find you extremely Attractive! someone who can take care of herself, have a lot of friends, have good relationships w/ people, be smart, have goals, have a lot of interests..... you will become really a "great catch" if u just work on yourself FIRST. then, u can see if the problem is Him, not You. the happier u are as a Person, the more you can offer to the relationship. same goes for him....the happier he is as a Man, the better boyfriend material he will be. good luck, and don't worry so much about him per se... first work on your confidence, and what kind of woman u want to be! then see if there is something u can do together to make the relationship more exciting.

take care!

Answer 5

Take some space, do your own thing, start a new hobby, take a class.... do it for yourself. Just be an interesting person and people will be more interested in you! You don't need him to make you happy, you go and make yourself happy. If he doesn't appreciate you then you've already lost him. You cannot ever control another person and the more you try, sooner or later he'll realize you're just manipulating him.

Answer 6

Why is it that you want to control things? Is it insecurity that you want him to "sweat you?"
Nothing, especially a relationship that is six years old should stay the same forever. As people grow and mature, the dynamics change as does our outlook on things.
You need to embrace the dynamism of fresh new things in your relationship. Do different things, learn and grow together.
If you don't,....

Answer 7

You said "boyfriend" and 6 years. You already made your bed now you have to lie in it. Which is when you already gave him all the cow before he bought the milk. You do not respect yourself there fore you already lost his respect and interest. The chase is off. He has gorged on you and had his fill and has no real reason to stick around. Maybe next time you will respect yourself and not waste 6 years on someone without a commitment.

Answer 8

Talk to him about it...you two need to put the magic and spark back into the relationship together...

It may be that your relationship has simply run its course and it's time to move on...but if you dig him, it's definitely worth working to keep things together...

Good luck!

Answer 9

you 2 just need some time to talk about things, but to make it better one night make him a candle light dinner, put on something sexy, put on some romantic music, buy some roses and throw the peddles all around your bed and on your bed , light candles in your room also. this could be a start of something new and wonderful to refresh some of your love for oneanother
GOOD LUCK !!

Answer 10

Think of fun (outrageous) day trips. Something you both have dreamed of doing. And put the plan into action. Fullfill fantasys. No holds bar.