This is actually a repeat of my question from 20 minutes ago. I decided to add detail to help you help me.
Setting:
I am 23, she is 21
Girl says she is a virgin
Girl goes crazy about me
She comes to my place a lot(tonight too...should I make the big move??)
She is pretty cute but not a bomb
I am treating her super nicely, said a lot of nice words(blahblahblha)
I am trying to get out of this a 1-2 year relationship at maximum - don't know what she wants
Is it worth to get involved?
What to expect?
What are the risks/benefits of a potential relationship with her?
Greatly appreciated!!!
2006-11-08 06:26:37 · 17 answers · asked by Bill123321123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. You have it all laid out so nicely!
If I were you, I'd cut and run. Get out now, before you do something this girl will regret for the rest of her life. She deserves better.
2006-11-08 06:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I would think that if she is cute, 21, and still a virgin, being a virgin is very important to her, and I think that is great. Sex is wonderful, but it is truly supposed to be an expression of love...since I doubt you love her at this point, do you really want to take away from her something she has obviously tried to protect?? I would take it slow, and see what develops...if she decided you are THE ONE....please be sweet and nice....you would be the one that no matter what she would never forget whether it is good or bad!!!!
2006-11-08 06:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by help4you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to her...start a conversation that will lead to talking about what she wants as far as long term, short term..etc. i am guessin b/c she is a virgin, that is looking for long-term and saving for marriage OR she just hasn't found the right guy to give herself to. is it worth it?..only you can answer that but some (not all) that are virgins and then loose it....can and might become very attached to that person. think they are in love...etc. what to expect?...well that can be a very general question....
the long and short of it (no pun intended) is that you need to talk to her, find out what she wants, expects, etc. if she wants it she'll tell you or you can make the move for it and go from there. if she says she's not ready then you better listen and stop.
the rest is up to you and her...
2006-11-08 06:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it may be a big deal to her! You may not be head over heals in love with this girl, but you never know what can happen. Why are you wanting one to two years of a relationship and how can you make that happen? What if you fall in love with her? If you already know you arent planning on a long relationship then ask her what she wants, if it's more....then say your good byes and dont hurt her.
some girls get attached to their first timer......Not me. probably not most anyone. But seriously....just be honest and talk to her.
good luck
2006-11-08 06:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by mslatin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen you can fall in love with her,i dont get this part :I am trying to get out of this a 1-2 year relationship at maximum .
come on,rfepeating myself too,you can fall in love with her.and about the part when your saying shes not so hot,well let me tell you:IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT BEAUTY!tonigh you ask her what are her plans about you,and if she says she wants a relationship...well go on with the love,and yes do it!and if she realy is a virgin be as gentle as you can posibely be!she maybe will be scared,just tell her to go with the flow...
p.s.please give me 10 points if you like the answer...
2006-11-08 06:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently, if she tells you she's a virgin, she either is, or doesn't want a physical relationship with you.
Why in the world would you put a time limit of the relationship?
You should be respectful.
2006-11-08 06:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"She is pretty cute but not a bomb. I am treating her super nicely, said a lot of nice words(blahblahblha)"
Sounds to me like you want to use her and get into her pants.
So I say you be upfront with her and tell her you only want her around for a year or so and want into her pants.
2006-11-08 06:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, it would really mess things up. Just go out and get to know her as a person. And it takes a good while to really get to know someone from on the inside verse the outside.
2006-11-08 06:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why only 1-2 years? what if you end up falling in love with her? that doesn't make sense. going into a relationship with a pre-set breakup point means that it's not worth doing. you seriously should re-evaluate this situation, and you view on it.
2006-11-08 06:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an idiot. If you're already planning on not being in the relationship for more than a certain amount of time, she'd be an idiot to be with your sorry butt. Find a ho to be your girlfriend. She won't mind you hitting and quitting it.
2006-11-08 06:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by viva_bamm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋