Is this cheating?? or not?

Question

My boyfriend has a female that he works out with, has college classes with and they also live in the same apartment. They have simular interest and major. She has boyfriend and she knows about me. He calls her to let her know that he is on his way their class. I saw them smile sweetly at each other once. He talks to her sees her more than he sees me because the are always in such close proxsimity. Is this cheating, Am I not putting my foot down, if not how do I do it without seeming like such a jelous ***** and make him respect me.

did I mention that he won't let me spend the night at his place because he says he has to study. I just have a bad feeling that are sleeping together because I told him I am waiting until marriage to have sex.

I encouraged him to invite her to lunch or something with us he said no because he did not want a "confrontation" she acts very uncomfortable around me. My boyfriend told me that she does this because she thinks i dont like her.

Sorry they do not "live together" but they live in the same apartment complex

Answer 1

I don't think that sounds like cheating at all; however, I can totally see why you would feel jealous because I'd feel that way if I had a gf like that! I think that they just happen to have very similar schedules, so they tend to be around each other a lot. Unless he constantly talks about how amazing she is all the time, or goes completely out of his way to make plans with her instead of being around you, then I'd start to worry and ask him what's going on. Until then, I don't think you need to feel threatened.

Answer 2

OK...it's cheating waiting to happen. Here it is and you're not going to like it. It's unusual for "room mates" of opposite sex not to have feelings for each other. Like you said, close proximity, not to mention the chances that they were once intimate are 99%. Your boyfriend is just hanging around with her in the same apartment until the coast is clear for him to make a move on her. When she's without a guy, he'll move in on her, I guarantee. Think about it: Guys don't hang with girls they're not "into" or girls that there's no possibility for sex (it's a major drive for guys). Girls surely don't want to hang with guys that have no potential for being something more than a friend. I think they both are bull*s*hitting you and he is definitely not respecting you. He's using you until she is free. He needs a kick to the curb, honey; cause that's where you are headed if you hang onto this relationship. Don't be a jealous b*itch, be a smart one. Godloveya.

Answer 3

No, it doesn't sound to me like he's cheating. It sounds like he has a roommate who's a girl, who he's also friends with. Try talking to him about the situation. Tell him how you feel. And if he says there's nothing to their relationship but friendship, then believe it unless you're proven otherwise.

Chances are you're just subconsciously jealous because he has a female friend. It's a normal reaction, but based upon the information you just gave I can't conclude he's cheating on you. He's allowed to have a female roommate, especially if this was the situation before you were in the picture (sounds like that's the case).

Answer 4

I have a lot of girls who are just friends and i would never cheat on my girlfriend. I wouild not worry about it except that he wouldnt let you spend the night. I dont think he is cheating on you but i would just tell him you want to spend the night and you can both study together. If he still wont let you then he might be cheating.

Answer 5

First question...if they are not a couple...why do they work out together, take classes together, and live together?? Sorry honey, but that sounds like a relationship...Maybe they just haven't told anyone yet, but I would say this is 100% wrong...Don't let him do this to you...Find out, it will be better for you in the long run!!!

Answer 6

I don't know what is going on it seems to me like there is something going on there. The fact that he won't let the three of you go to lunch together throws up a BIG red flag. I wouldn't waste my time with someone who spends more time with another girl than you. Sorry I think you should dump his ***.

Answer 7

No, its not cheating. But, I don't think I would like for my Husband to spend more time with another female then he does with me.

Try inviting her to do something with you and your boyfriend, and if she accepts, then she probably isn't a threat. If she comes, be extra lovey with your guy. If she declines, it may be because she doesn't want to see the two of you together.

You might also want to consider talking to your boyfriend. Just tell him you're a little jealous because he is spending alot of time with her. Tell him you trust him, it's just that you want to spend more time with him.

Answer 8

By respecting yourself and saying it does not work for me to be in a relationship that I have to question and or am not set up to feel secure. Your either feel like your number one, or you don't. Women need to honor themselves more by not being so needy of men and willing to except situations that are less than do-able. For what ever reasons he is not in a place to give you what you need. Be OK with that, respect him and respect your needs and get on. Next!

Answer 9

Relax...if you go and get all psycho on him then that will drive him away. Where are you going to put your foot down?...on his throat? Yeah that will really make him love you.

Let him have some room in his life. If you truly love him that will be apparent to him as your time together goes on. Don't be a crazy biatch.

Try to include yourself in their friendship. Hang out with them and do stuff. But watch your "hidden attitude". Try to be nice, warm, friendly, and sincere...just like you are.

Answer 10

Sounds like grey territory, but voice your concerns to your bf, and his roommate. Then listen to both reactions, and also watch for body language.

When you tell them make up something about if they are together that's fine, but you don't want to waste time being with just one guy if he isn't going to keep a closed relationship and you are worried due to their closeness. It's natural and nothing is wrong with saying something, just don't get mad when you discuss it.