If you looked through your BF's phone and he asked...?

Question

why you looked through it, what would you say? Truly, I just wanted to be nosey. I need to take his cell to be repaired, so I have it with me. OF COURSE I looked through it, and I wont lie about that (if he even asks). I noticed he was deleting stuff before giving it to me.. ALL texts, and some pics. (which was questionable- he tried to play it off, but I didnt ask about that) I was sure that he'd deleted anything that he thought I'd feel uneasy about, so I figured anything left in the phone would be ok for me to look at. The only thing I saw was his call history and contacts list. We swapped phones for the day (I didnt have to "edit" MY phone before giving it to him) & I wouldnt care if he looked through mine. What do you think? Just for the record, we are both in our early 20's and the relationship is considered to be "serious".

Answer 1

you need to stop checkin gup on your man. if you consider your relationship to be serious then he does too. if he has things that he deleted he probably just deleted the number of some of his buddies you don;t like. from a guy in the same situation as your man i can say he probably isn't calling a bunch of girls so give dude a break. i live with my girl and she checks my phone all the time. what is that number who is that if i call will a girl pick up who have you been calling all that is annoying. it's the pizza place, it's my work number. that's were i let somebody borrow my phone.

he probably just cleared out anything that he thought you would ***** about and he doesn't want to hear it

Answer 2

Thats how me and my boyfriend are, we've been together for over four years and are constantly looking at one anothers phone. I notice him delteing things too, maybe its a guy thing? Or maybe they are both hiding stuff from us? hmm..you have the right to look through it, you are his girlfriend and if he is hiding something from you, you deserve to know about it. I never "edit" my phone, but it seems he is always "editing" his, which kinda pisses me off and also makes me wonder as well. I'm sure its nothing though, if he thought some girl would call or some girl would text, i'm pretty sure he wouldnt have given you the phone in the first place, so i dont think you have anything to be worried about. Good luck!

Answer 3

He has something to hide if he feels the need to erase things before you get it. If you are in a serious relationship you should know everything about each other and feel close enough and intimate enough that nothing should feel secretive. I would ask him why he erased things before he gave it to you. Explain that you probably wouldn't have looked through it if he hadn't been shady about it in the first place. If he doesn't give an explanation wait about a week and ask to borrow his phone and see how he acts. If he acts wierd about it or wants to "edit" it first then call him out on it and demand he tell you what he is hiding. You are both old enough now to be responsible adults and he shouldn't be playing games with you.

Answer 4

The only time I would do that is if I suspected something was going on. I'm not just going to sit by as sh*t gets done behind my back. And if he asked me why I would tell him the reason. Him editing his phone should be of great concern to you. Obviously he is doing things behind your back. I'd say wait a couple of weeks then look through the phone again. Perhaps those texts he deleted will be back.

Answer 5

You should always feel like you can be open in your relationship. In relationships you should have a way of speaking your discomfort to your partner, if they are hesitant or defensive on the matter then you have to wonder why. You should always go with your gut. If you cannot be open in your relationship then you are not dating that person, you are dating their representative and when the real person come out you might have a problem with them because you fell in love with someone else. Search for the real him, and not what he wants to delete.

Answer 6

If he felt the need to edit things from his phone, I would say that wasn't a good thing. If he asked me, I would be honest. Tell him you were being nosy. But ask yourself this, if this a serious relationship you should have trust. And to me it sounds like you may not have very much in him. And with him editing, he probably isn't very trustworthy. Talk to him and see if there's anything he wants to tell you. Good luck. And remember.....if you can't trust who you're with, why be with them.

Answer 7

Sometimes I make sure to delete text messages my friend and I send each other in case my bf would happen to look. Only because we are texting about him! Nothing bad - just girl stuff you wouldn't want your man to read. Maybe he does the same thing with his friends?

Answer 8

Boyfriends at the instant are not husbands! you have a house, he has one. You the two have separate lives. So there would desire to be some barriers laid down. in spite of the undeniable fact that, Boyfriends do grow to be husbands (a minimum of they'd desire to). on the way, have faith and appreciate would desire to be developed. If the dating between you 2 is substantial to the two considered one of you, learn how to have faith one yet another. You reject and dodge issues that appear like it would harm somewhat of help the dating and he would desire to do the comparable.

Answer 9

Maybe he's hidding something but don't be so afraid, it could be just a private conversation with a friend and some funny embarasing pics of him. He shouldn't care about you looking his phone, just ask him and make him knoe you have nothing to hide

Answer 10

Why would he have to delete anything at all? If you're his girl then shouldn't he trust you with anything?

It sounds suspicious to me.

However, maybe he's just a private person and knew you would look through it... Maybe the things he deleted weren't "Bad" things, just private.

I don't know the guy, so I don't know what to tell ya.