i have already decided to save sex for marrige, but what if one day i get caught in the moment, and i have sex (with my boyfriend, not just some guy i meet) and he sees me naked, and thinks that i am ugly, (i am not fat-fat, but not skinny either, more of an average...) and in turn we loose the relationship that we had. no, this has not happend, i am a virgin, and will do my best to remain one until i wed, but there are moments, when we look at the promises that we have made to our selves, and wonder.... i know that this is another reason that i should obstain from sex, and just want to know your thoughts on this one.
2006-11-08 06:08:11 · 14 answers · asked by freshman_no_longer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regardless if you are of average body type, a little heavy or a little underweight it is more important that you feel good about who you are and that you are proud of the body that you will someday offer to a man. Confidence in yourself is the biggest turn on any woman can offer and believing that your body is alright is part of that confidence. Best of luck to you in reaching your goal of marrying as a virgin and if you are unsuccessful in attaining this goal then just be proud of who you are. Too many young girls today feel that they need to give it up to all and any male that comes into their lives or they will not want them. Sounds to this old man like you have a very healthy outlook on life and are not swayed by society's view on sexuality. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-08 06:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you and I was kinda thinking of doing something I would start with for-play (sp) that way you can kinda build up to actually going all the way if you decide to. If he does not like the way that your body is then you don't need to be with him anyway. Think about if you do wait until you get married and on you honeymoon....are you still going to feel like that then, that won't make for a very "romantic" honeymoon if you are trying to hide yourself the whole time. Maybe you can just start changing in front of him and little things like that so you won't feel so selfconcious.
2006-11-08 15:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by TNL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should learn to be more accepting of your body and if you don't like it...change it...
If a guy is going to dump you because he sees you naked and doesn't like what he sees, he's not worth your time in the first place...if this really concerns you, I'd suggest you show your naked self to every guy you consider dating...that way you won't have to worry about wasting your time with someone who may find your body unappealing down the road.
2006-11-08 14:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, relax. if your that caught up in it, he is too. second, have confidence, because its sexy. third, if youre worried about it, take up yoga and running. never seen a girl who did those who wasnt terribly sexy. forth, every woman has beauty. you have yours. last, by the time you get to the actual sex, you will have done lots of other stuff, and he will probably know very well what every inch of you looks like. stay with what you believe, if you want to wait till marriage, good on you. theres LOTS of fun stuff to do that isnt sex itself. learn to be very skilled at all those things. learn about your own body. again though, be confident in yourself. 2% of us are swimsuit models, the rest are just people. everyone has thier little issues, and those can be just as great to someone whos in love with you as those perfect bodies are. also, no ones that perfect. go to you tube and search around for "making a supermodel" and watch what they do. all the photoshopping and airbrushing is insane. SO! believe in yourself. chose your lovers wisely. stick to your guns. above all - have fun!!
2006-11-08 14:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by savgbst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious body image issue. It's good that you want to save sex for marriage, but if you do have sex before marriage beleive me you won't mind what you look like naked...
2006-11-08 14:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by marialejandra c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys don't really care about what you look like naked, when they love and respect you. I have been with some guys myself that look pretty hot with clothes on, and then you see them naked...what a shock
2006-11-08 14:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by stacye5398 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if the same thing happens after marriage?
Will it be any different? Commitment shouldn't be left to hang on a thread called marriage
2006-11-08 14:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Existentialist_Guru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you already, what are you worried about. The no sex before marriage things doesn't work for me i have needs ok.
2006-11-08 14:12:58 · answer #8 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thought on this one is why wait? Sex is the basest of human pleasures. We have bodies so we can enjoy them. You need to forget about the damned Bible and liberate yourself.
2006-11-08 14:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you do not wear 10 layers of clothing then he already knows what your body "type" is and will not be surprised. He will just be excited to see boobies and get to play with them. haha
2006-11-08 14:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋