Was I wrong to do this?

Question

I asked a question previously about my situation with my being pregnant by married man and hae received a lot of responses both good and bad. Well, the father recently called me this past weekend checking on me and telling me he know that I am a good woman and he hates the way thing have turned out between us. He asked me if I thought about him or missed him because he thinks about me all the time. I told him that I didn't think about him and wanted nothing else to do with him. then he asked me what was I going to do about child support and I told him nothing because I didn't want him to have any rights to our baby. He was in a bad car accident a little over a month ago and hasn't been back to work and said he is depressed because he's not able to go back to work even on office duty because of his broken bones. The last time I spoke with with him before this was when he was in the hospital. I don't want to seem mean, but he has put me through a lot. Was I wrong to be so cold to him?

Answer 1

no you were not mean. if you were being honest.

Answer 2

Well honey U cant just take him away from his child completely by law he still has rights to this child no matter how far u want him from u and also ur child has every right to know who is his dad regardless of the situation a baby is expensive so u probably goin 2 need him so u should just be an adult about this. Question does his wife know about this??? or about U??? I think u should be around for the sake of the baby and for him I dont wish bad on no one but that accident is proof of God dont like ugly....

Answer 3

Without preaching to you about how neither of you should have been in that situation to begin with, I'll say this:

He has a legal right to see his children. Causing hard feelings and going to court to haggle over the matter won't be good for anyone. If he's a responsible enough person, let him be a part of his child's life. It's no longer about you and him; it's about the child you're having.

Answer 4

No. I am going to start by saying that that having sex with a married man is wrong. It is also wrong to have sex without being married. I don't want to seem like I am lecturing you, or shoving religion down your throat. I was in a similar situation as you. I had three children by a man that was in a common law relationship. I thought he loved me and the children and we would be a family one day. Everything turned out well with my children. I cut myself off completely from the man. He then no longer wanted anything to do with our children. I realized that I was going to have to take care of my children without him. We are doing really well and this was all possible by the grace of GOD. My children and I are in church and we are doing well. We are financially stable as well as spiritually stable. You can do anything with GOD's help. Please stop worrying about how the married man feels and get yourself together for your child. I wish you the best. I will pray for you. May God Bless You and your child!

Answer 5

No you wasn't, but if he wants to help then let him. It is a different if he wants to help you and you don't want him to tell him no, but let him help the baby. Trust me later on you are going to need him it is better to let him help now then later. Besides don't you want him in your child's life, he don't have to be in your life but let him be in his child life, he did help make the baby, that child is a part of him whether he is married or not. If he says he miss you it is a good chance he feels bad, and that he wants to help you whether he likes you , or still have feelings for you, or whatever the case is, you should let him help you, and you should be easy on him, not all of the time, but at least sometimes. Trust me you are going to need him later, or maybe you know you need him, and you just don;t want him because of what he did to hurt you. If that the case just let him pay for child support, ans have a family member, or a friend help you get through your pains, and your tough time.

Answer 6

wrong to be so cold to him? yes, but with ex's it understandable- if you are always like that though, you'd benefit from changing that

you are the one responsible for him being your baby daddy , accept that. your daughter is the only innocent

then there is karma- when you need something the most, don't it always seem to come from where you least expect it?
you shouldn't burn bridges carelessly.

Answer 7

no your not mean BC he put you though a lot and he is wrong but he is the jerk BC he is calling you to get sympathy from you he is lucky that you even talk to him and picket up the phone the car accident was Carma come back to hI'm he deserved it im not trying to be mean but that is life Hun he got what he deserved you should not feel bad BC he brought that upon him self

Answer 8

no...you have to think about whats best for the baby and if that means not having a father around, then that means no father around....

Do what you have to girl! I know you can make it happen!

Answer 9

Yes, and you are wrong to deny him access to the child; the kid has a right to know who his father is, and to meet him.

Answer 10

I'd advise you get child support. It's up to him to get a waiver for a temporary disability. Child support is separate from visitation. You can still get visitation denied.

Answer 11

nope he doesn't deserve the time of day from you. the car wreck he was in is probably karma just warming him up for the rest of his life of agony that he has caused himself by puting you through what you're going through

be strong and don't take no ****