I got caught smoking, What do I tell my dad?

Question

I am 16 and well I was smoking with a friend yesterday and my ex-bf's mom caught us (shes also my next door neighbor). Anyways she called my dad and told him. My dad told me a couple weeks ago that if i drink, smoke, or do drugs he is automatically gonna send me back to my moms house. I am just getting settled here and meeting people and I dont wanna go back. When he gets me from school in like 20 minutes we have to have "a talk". What should i tell him?

Answer 1

well first of all you should stop smoking. there is not up side or advantage to doing it.
1. it costs a lot of money
2. it will make your skin gross and wrinkly
3. it will make your teeth yellow and gross
4. it smells awful
5. if you continue, the likelihood is that you will never be able to stop.
6. smokers have horrible health problems, and not always later in life. cancer is not pretty.

Answer 2

Oops - bad call there. Of course, by now you know what you did was stupid, right? The whole "risking my health for something stupid/doing something I know dad told me not to do" thing.

What do you tell him? How about, "Dad, I'm sorry - I screwed up badly. I hate having you think that I'm stupid, but I sure gave you evidence that I'm not too bright, didn't I? I don't know what's worse - that I did something that is addictive, unhealthy, even dirty (smokers smell awful and there are all those discarded butts and ashes) - or that I knowingly betrayed your trust. I know you're mad, and I don't blame you, but I'm hoping you'll give me a chance to prove to you that I've learned my lesson and I can be trusted."

But.

You only say it if you mean it, because starting right after that speech, you have to live up to it.

Because.

Worse than what you just did would be following it up by screwing up again, after which he wouldn't trust you at all, with reason, and you'd be moving back to Mom's so fast your tail would be on fire.

So. What you tell him is the truth - either that you just can't be trusted, so you should probably go back to Mom's, or that you can be trusted, so you're hoping he'll give you another chance.

Which you won't waste.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi ,i am 3o yrs old and you know what i am on my 8th atempt to stop smoking ,they are a curse !!!
This time i have been off them 8 wks and really think this time i will do it ,but i say your`e dad sounds like he loves you a great deal and is really looking after you ,
You actually have the chance now to say`i made a mistake and thats that `,you don`t want to end up like me struggling all the time ,stopping and starting!
Tell your`re dad that you did it as you`re friend was doing it and tell him ,that you are sorry ,also always remember you`re dad as only got you`re best interests at heart ,and if i was you i would show him this web page.
It shows that you have a heart also and wanted to know the best think to say to you`re dad.
Smoking is for losers ,you will stay young looking longer and also always have money in pocket ,my wardrobe as increased loads in 8 wks as i have more money!!!!!
Good luck with you `re school and new life !!!!

Answer 4

Tell him the truth. Then act as maturely as you can and explain how sorry you are, how much you want to stay where you are, and how much harder that you are going to follow his rules. Do not be snotty and certainly don't pull the "I'm 16", almost grown up, or old enough routine. That most likely will get you sent back to your mother's. Agree to another punishment like being grounded. In fact, you could suggest a reasonable punishment as part of exhibiting your newfound maturity. Don't smoke. Please. Not that long ago I held my dying father in my arms as his last breathe left him. It was not a happy last few years for him either. Lung cancer sucks.

Answer 5

Tell him the truth. He told you up front what would happen to you if you smoked...and you did it anyways. So you knew this would happen... You might want to tell him that it was stupid and you will never do it again. Tell him you researched it online and saw all the bad things it will do to you and it grossed you out so you will never do it again. Maybe just tell him you wanted to try it, but luckily you hated it so you never want to do it again... Seems to me like you are screwed if he is a man of his word! Just grow up and listen to your parents, especially when it comes to smoking and such. Why did you do it when you knew this was the outcome? Not so smart, are ya? I hope it was worth it! Now you have black lungs and a pissed of father! WOOHOOO!! SCORE!

Answer 6

say it could be worse i could be smoking pot. NO don't tell him that, that was just a joke. there is really nothing you can say to your parents to change what you did or their opinion. Does he smoke????? Just fess up that your screwed up and say it won't happen again and take whatever he gives you for a punishment and don't complain. Next time find a better place to smoke and if you have long hair tie it up in a tight bun, because the cigarett smoke sticks to your hair (smell does).....good luck!

Answer 7

Say you are sorry...if you really don't want to leave it is necessary for you to make him think that it was a mistake that you regret it and will never do it again, EVEN if you dont feel that way. Dont argue thats the worst thing you can do, confess what you did and appologize big time and hope he forgives you.

Answer 8

Tell the truth - no matter what the outcome !
You knew the consequences before you smoked so you must have thought it was worth the risk (dumb move).

Answer 9

Sincerely apologize for your mistake. Agree to sign a contract with him that you will behave. And if you mess up ONE more time, than you agree to his original plan. You need to respect his rules and good judgement. Obviously he loves you, and looking out for your best interests.

Answer 10

What were you smoking? Ha ha nah, you will have to respect his rules and do what he says. Don't blame it on everyone else, just apologize. Say you don't know why you tried it....