So many of my friends are back where they started after a couple of years marriage- Shouldn't we just cut the cr*p, forget the nuptials and all that rip off garbage that makes up a wedding and just have a legal agreement when first we shack up that should (or when) he or she wants to leave, we know who gets what CD albums?
2006-11-08 05:51:05 · 14 answers · asked by poppy vox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you've got the right idea personally. Does marriage ever last these days? Isn't romance fake? Let's face it, what is romantic about fighting over a pet or the kids or the sofa or the cd's. Forget the romance just be practical and protect yourself from bankrupcy. Ive been stung twice and I have nothing at 30. I used to have £50k in savings now I have 10k and no job. All because of fighting over what we had. I have a child to support in a 2 bed flat whereas my ex is buying a 4 bed house with his new girlfriend. We struggle and he has everything.
2006-11-08 06:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by hornyheluk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much agree. Weddings were good when they were just a wee party to celebrate with a few friends and family that you'd found your true love and wanted to celebrate it. Problem is nowadays weddings are too competitive and people get married as 'something to do next' rather than just move on together and focus on life rather than one great day. Or else use it as a sticking plaster over problems they can't deal with. Either way, 'the songbird sings sweetest when the cage door is left open' as the proverb goes, or it was a line from a film or something, but I think it sums the whole marriage thing up.
2006-11-08 07:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by Just_wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are about the emotions that you feel for each other at the time and it is a way of telling the world that you love this person and want to spewnd your life witht hem. If it was a legal agrrement, it would be just like a trip to the lawyers office. Go in, sign and agree and leave. No feeling and no emotions and that is not who human beings are. We have a need to proclaim our feelings to the world and that is where weddings come in. As long as we maintain those feeling, there will always be weddings and sometimes divorces.
2006-11-08 06:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Studies have shown that the best way to have a sucessful marriage is to:
1. Don't have sex before marriage. If you are then stop. The emotions associated with sex are easily confused with love (especially for women).
2. Don't live together before marriage. You need the grace that comes from being married to sope with living with your husband. Also when you already live together it is easy to slide into marriage rather than choosing it.
3. Use Natural Family Planning. Couple who use NFP communicate more. They understand each other more. Men see their wives as being wonderful, women find their husbands more understanding.
4. Go to Church and pray together, It makes you realise that you are not the centre of the world and helps keep things in perspective.
And just in case you are thinking no one does that any more. My husband and I did. All of our friends did or do. None of us are divorced!
2006-11-08 21:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by MrsC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you in that marriage seems to have lost its original meaning. i was raised to believe it's a spiritual connection, an occasion for two people in love to show the world that they are committed to each other and want to spend the rest of the world together. but indeed when marriage ends in divorce, one can wonder why they had to get through the wedding ceremony in the first place. at the same time, as someone commented, the relationship does not stand a chance if you get into it thinking it is going to fail. one of the secrets of lasting relationships is the eternal optimism that is necessary: as long as you believe you two can work it out, you will.
2006-11-08 09:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Diane M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure as hell think so. I want to have a happy, romantic marriage as much as the next person, but I also want to be secure if things don't work out... **** happens. I say don't harp on it, but plan for the worst no matter how much you love someone.
2006-11-08 06:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you consider what's going to happen if you get divorced? Isn't marriage for life? There shouldn't be a what-if. If there is then just don't get married.
2006-11-08 05:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by EmotionalStrength1022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with this attitude i think if i were you i would just forego the relationship altogether...youve doomed it from the beginning....i would think that if you love someone the least of your worries should be cds....cds are replaceable,,,if its a bad relationship then i'd walk away from the cds just to get out
2006-11-08 06:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by cookiesmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hardly romantic is it? If everyone went into marriage thinking it was going to end no-one would ever do it.
2006-11-08 05:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice to see you've got a positive outlook on the future of your relationship!
2006-11-08 07:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by phooey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋