I met and fell in love with a girl when i was 16yrs old(i'm a girl also). which made things difficult because im not attracted to any other females except her. Its been 6yrs now with an on/off relationship. we were living together until recently when she said she needs space and fells like she's been tied down her whole life. she was my 1st, i wasnt hers. she tells me she jus needs time and that she's still in love with me. we hav been a secret our whole relationship. her immediate family knows and my mom knows but none of our friends. im in love, i wanna spend my life with her. her freedom is the most important thing to her right now. was this ever real bcuz it was a secret? should i let go or keep tryin? its been a month. we still talk everyday and i spent the last 2 nights with her. my heart wont let go!! i know she been wit another guy since our break-up, but tells me she only messin wit him to help her get over me
2006-11-08 05:47:26 · 14 answers · asked by poohiejones84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not giving up. It's giving her the time and space she desperately needs. It's nothing you did. I understand where she's coming from because I have been there. She is not emotionally ready for what you have to offer. She needs to see that there are other fish in the sea. She may need to even play with those fish. But she'll still love you.
The problem is whether you should be patient and wait around. I don't think you should. I think you also need to see that there are other fish in the sea. You might not find anyone else. But maybe if she sees you looking it will help her realize that she wants only you.
2006-11-08 06:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was real even if you never openly told people about it. Do not question whether it was "real" or not because six years is a LONG time. Why don't you confront her and confess all of this to her? It doesn't hurt to try. And if you don't you are always going to be left wondering, What if. If she gives you the third degree and keeps saying she needs her space, then it will be hard, but realize it may be time for you to move on. I'm sure she wouldn't be happy to learn if she were in your position, that you were messing around with someone else and saying it was 'to get over' her. That does not seem fair.
Good luck! :)
2006-11-08 05:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should give her the space she says she wants and maybe date someone else. I know it sounds silly but you are pretty young still and what you want now may not be what you want even a year from now. Your first is the hardest to get over, but life is too short to hang on to relationships that aren't working.
2006-11-08 05:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by rainmonster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is not sure about having this type of relationship for the rest of her life. Have a family in the future. Let her be in her space, if you are the one she will come back to you. WAIT..I do not remember exactly how this go:
"IF SHE LOVE YOU...LET HER GO ...
IF SHE LOVE YOU...SHE ALWAYS COME BACK".
2006-11-08 05:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not sure what to tell you to do, I would just let her go! If she has been with someone else since yalls break-up, then maybe she wants to date other people. I think you should move on to someone else. i know you love her, but she is the only one you have been with. Try someone new, you never know what will become of it!
2006-11-08 05:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by *Red Hotts* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "He's just not that into you". It doesn't matter if he's really a she... its the same thing. You love her, and she's not treating you right or fairly. Let her go. If she really is your soulmate, it will work itself out. All I know is, if someone "loves you"... they're not messing with someone else. You're too good for that. Move on, honey.
2006-11-08 05:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by evDub 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go...Good thing happened to those who wait...Just keep on with your life go out have fun...And what does she need space from?? You ?? Then maybe she doesnt feel the same about you
2006-11-08 05:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs to experience life. You have to let her. If she loves you...she will come back. In the meantime, you need to keep living too. Get out and meet new people and have fun.
2006-11-08 05:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she needed her space, she wouldn't need help to get over you. She just doesn't want a commitment at this point. Don't move in with her, but you can date her here and there, that's all she wants. If you need more than that, you'll have to get over her and find sombody else.
2006-11-08 05:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you, why is she trying to get over you? You don't do that to someone you love. Cut your losses now, your heart will heal in time and you will find someone that will want to love you as much as you love them. Life is to short!
2006-11-08 05:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by samantha36064 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋