And why do guys do that? How should I approach him, or will I just look like a snoop?
2006-11-08 05:42:26 · 33 answers · asked by Diamonds_4Ever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probaly not cheating, I wouldn't worry. My boyfriend does the same thing, and he told me he does it because its a habit. If your really concerned, then I would just ask him, "why do you do that?" you know, you dont have to come off like your accusing him, just ask him. See what he says. You maybe totally surprised at his response, because guys are strange beings.
2006-11-08 05:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. On the one hand he has a right to some privacy, and trust is imperative in a healthy relationship, and on the other hand he has snooped on you too, and the things you found on his phone already have concerned you enough to be suspicious. First of all, his ex girlfriend is not your friend. She may have other motivations for telling you he's been texting her such as creating panic and anxiety in you to make things tense between you and your boyfriend. Why talk to her anyway? There is no way she has either your, or your boyfriends best interests at heart. Ask her to prove it and show you the messages, or shut the hell up and stop insulting your man. Secondly, lock your phone, and ask your boyfriend if he has anything to tell you. If he says he hasn't cheated on you drop it, and forget about it. Also let him know that the past is the past, and have a look at some communication, self esteem, and relationship tips regarding strengthening trust between the two of you. If he's not into doing that, maybe he's not at the stage where a relationship is important to him, and if you are maybe it's time to stop focusing so much on him and let things take their natural course. Good luck xx
2016-05-21 22:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already look like a snoop since you have been checking his cell phone at night. Sounds like your relationship lacks trust and probably for a good reason. Guys with nothing to hide don't feel the need to do this. Girls in trusting relationships don't feel the need to check someone else's cell phone.
2006-11-08 05:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by brews 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No, its iffy. Has he acted strange in other ways? not paying enough attention to you, acting diffrent in general,etc. Some people are security concus and will do that, i used to be like that, not anymore though, but that's besides the point. To approach him, i suggest just talking top him about it, and tell him how it makes you feel that he's doing that, and that your worried about your relationship with him.Now, if you tried to break into his cell phone, or snuck around behind his back,etc then you would definitely look like a snoop.
2006-11-08 05:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lee J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why when a guy does something that a woman does not like they always jump to "does this mean he is cheating?" Look if you've been together for 4 years and everything in the relationship is fine then you should feel comfortable in asking him why he chooses to do that. One day when you guys are out purposely forget your cell phone at home and ask to use his. Then go through it if you really feel you need to do that. If woman just cut out all the middle bull shi t like asking their girlfriends twenty million q's. on is he cheating on me and just go straight to the source and listen to your gut instinct you would have a better life.
2006-11-08 05:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol no that doesn't mean he is cheating on you. and guys aren't the only ones that do that. My gf does it also. My gf is very secretive over her phone and sometimes it bothers me because she acts like she is hiding it from me but I know her and she would never do anything like that. It all comes down to trust. If it really bothers you you can try to ask him about it. Don't just come right out in an accusing way but just ask if he is happy with you and ask if he will tell you why he does that. Helpful tips act nervous and act like he may be mad at you for asking something like that. If you can manage a frightened look and not be able to meet his eyes there is no way he can be mad at you and more then likely he will be some attracted to your actions he will reveal all. for some reason guys just can't resist the shy timid look
2006-11-08 05:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by shycountryboy85 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No he just doesn't want his snooping girlfriend going through his things. Woman who do this tend to find things that aren't even there but make a big deal out it. It also shows that you have trust issues which for "me" would send me running in the other direction.
2006-11-08 05:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will totally look like a snoop. In fact he probably already thinks that you are or he would not lock his phone in the first place.
2006-11-08 05:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by curious caucasian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't necissarily mean he's cheating, but there's something he's wanting to hide. I'd ask him why he locks his phone at night. You'd think after 4 years there would be no secrets or reason to hide things from you.
2006-11-08 05:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he has something to hide why would he care if you see what he uses his phone for . I don't lock my phone cause I have nothing to be ashamed of.I would come right out and say why do you lock your phone or feel the need to hide things from me
2006-11-08 05:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by KAT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋