I use to go with this person. we were together on and off. yeah...he told me he loved be (bla bla bla). he put me thought kinds of things: cheating, lieing, even a nervous break down, other females trying to fight me over him, ect. He satys in and out of trouble write know he is in prison for a gun charge. Yes I did break up with him. (I don't need that type of s*** in my life). Now I'm happy and I am in a good relationship...the best I have ever been in. but the problem is my ex gets out of prison in a month in a half and he still thinks we are going to get back together (talking about i love you, i see what i'm missing, you know...bulls****). but I don't want to be with him any more. what should I do? What do I need to tell him to get it though his thick skull?
2006-11-08 05:34:04 · 10 answers · asked by just_sexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh Boi!!!!! 1st you need to be honest with your current man. He needs to know what's going on so that there are no surprises. 2nd you need to be honest about your Feelings of him to him for the sake of your happiness. He can either except it and move on or maybe he won't take it that well. In that case you need back up without sending him back to jail. Don't down talk him or bring up the past just state that you where there through it all and now you just can't anymore and you need to be happy. If he really cares for you no matter how much it hurts him he will want the same.
2006-11-08 05:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by ~InEvItAbLe~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are through. Do not let this guy get in the way of your great relationship with this other guy. Just be truthful and tell him you deserve better. He will more than likely rattle off a string of I know what I have missed, I know now what I want bla, bla, bla. This is a last ditch effort to keep you hanging on. Do not let him use you or play with your head. You do not need someone who is going to be in and out of trouble and jail.
2006-11-08 05:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a Dear John letter, date and sign it, make a photocopy for your records and send him the original letter. In it make sure you tell him it's over, has been and always will be finished. Then tell him in the letter, that when he gets out to stay away from you and do not try to contact you ever. Also let him know you have a copy of the same letter you sent him in-case you need to go to the police to keep him away!!! Unfortunately for you, I would also show this letter to the new boyfriend because he has the right to know if any future troubles may be coming his/your way from this jerk when he gets out. Hope all works out for you!!!
2006-11-08 05:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of lying to him getting a hold of him while in prison telling him that your still in love with him.. be honest tell him that you are in a good relationship... the only reason why the man will come looking for you is you must of gave him a reason too.. Be honest with him, put an end to this nonsense...
2006-11-08 05:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you do not want to see him, much less have a relationship.
Then tell him that if he does not leave you alone, you will have a restraining order put on him. Talk like you mean business. Talk to his parole officer if you feel you need to.
Good luck
and many kudos to you for sticking to your guns(no pun intended)
:)
2006-11-08 05:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I had to do the same thing. Honestly, my guy didn't wanna hear that. I had to avoid him like the plague, not answer his calls, and refuse to see him. I had to get a restraining order, move, all that. Sometimes they don't wanna hear it but it's up to you to do what you gotta do. You can try to tell hem hella rude style, tho. Who knows. Good luck!
2006-11-08 05:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let your current bf know that he's getting out of jail. Then, as soon as he is out, tell him the truth, and that you don't want to be bothered anymore.
If your ex decides to start acting psycho about it, then at least your current boyfriend will be prepared.
Good luck to you!!!
2006-11-08 05:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him, tell him now that you don't want to hear from him when he gets out of prison.
2006-11-08 05:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't have to say anything to him. You guys broke up. That means its over. You've obviously moved on with your life and now its time for him to move on with his. If he can't accept that you're finished that's his problem. Let him deal with that.
2006-11-08 05:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by stephanne1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him it's over
2006-11-08 05:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by szfr8l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋