My girlfriend which is 11 years older than I am.Is ready for a commitment. She is everything a man is looking for a woman in bed. But attitude. Shes the kind of woman that will scream about everything that doesn't go her way. Plus she uses foul language when shes upset. I think for a lady to use that kind of language is not really a lady. What advice can you give me. Should I stay with her because if you think about it. Most women out there is either their way or else. Or just use her as a booty call. I don't want to lie to her because even though i hate it when she acts that way. I still love her. If i didn't love her I would have left her a long time ago. By the way she's 39 and I'm 28. I dont mind settling down. Its just with that attitude it makes me think twice .
2006-11-08 05:30:53 · 33 answers · asked by urhomiesid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
open communication is the key.
you obviously want this to turn out well. so, sit her down and discuss the situation with her. ask her if she can see your point of view and if she is willing to let you know if there is something she finds upsetting about you as well.
discuss the possibility of changing the behaviors that are upsetting to both of you.
and go from there.
2006-11-08 05:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run for the hills. If she's like that before you get married it's gonna get worse when you are. Also, if she's 39 right now she'll be hitting menopause pretty soon and you what that means. You're better off with someone younger, it seems like over all the younger women are less bi*chy, maybe that's because their not old and bitter yet, and haven't been screwed over by a lot of guys. Trust me, men her own age don't want her, why should you.
2006-11-08 05:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by M M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't sound sure, and obviously if you were sure about what to do you wouldn't be asking the question here. That to me is a sign that you shouldn't commit, at least not right now, because that's a big decision. I think you should explain to her your concerns in a non-judgmental way(make it sound positive or she'll just get defensive), maybe say you need some time to think about it(a specific amount of time, like 6 months, so she knows where she stands) and see how things go.
2006-11-08 05:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by rainmonster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women are not like that. Granted we do usually want to get our way but we don't rant and rave and yell and scream at people. A commitment is a serious thing. Is this really someone you want to spend a lot of time with?? I would say no. If you're having a problem with her behavior now you'll have problems later on in the relationship too. Get out now if you don't like her attitude. It will just be harder to end it the longer you prolong the relationship.
2006-11-08 05:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by stephanne1978 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say if you love her the attitude won't matter but really if you really love her could you REALLY consider letting her go and just USE her for a booty call? you should talk to her about her language and attittue and see what she has to say about it. don't pounce on her and make her feel cornered just be sensitive... and being that she is a cougar you need to take into account that she has had more life lived than you and she is tired of waiting and that is probably all that is upsetting her in the end... and that's hard to express without anger.
2006-11-08 05:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by Que 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling together, tell her how you feel about the way she acts. If she's not willing to go to counseling let her go. She is the type who will become controlling and manipulative. Do you really want to come home every day to the third degree? Most women out there know how to compromise. You don't "mind" settling down with her? You should crave to settle down with the woman you truly love. I agree with another answerer, you should not settle.
2006-11-08 05:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jnine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother love is uncoditional but if your questioning then talk to her about her behavior that is upsetting to you.If she loves and respects you then she will do something about it and if she continous on then you'll also know.Sex is a part of a relationship but there has to be more or else itz just a booty call.There is a very fine line-a letter difference really-between CLASS and CRASS.What can you live with and how long?
2006-11-08 06:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Shalimaar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best way if she doesn't get her way i really would just talk to her just when she get like that let her talk first and then say look I'm a grown man i know your a little older but please dint treat me like a child i would like to resolve it and communicate with you because communication is the most important key in every aspect of life i want to work things out for our benefit i really don't like when you scream and use foul language i want you to talk to me like you care if she doesn't talk and keep doing that just leave her then because there are plenty of women out that that are better then her because i think communication is very important and there are other women better in bed trust me good luck Hun
2006-11-08 05:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So it's either try and settle down with her or just use her as a booty call? And you claim to love her? If you love her you won't string her along. Either make a committment or leave so she has a chance to find someone else - no booty calls.
2006-11-08 05:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried telling her how you feel? Maybe she isn't quite aware of how she's acting. It sounds like you guys could use a little work but it also sounds like it IS worth the effort. If you decide to just use her as a "booty call" just break up with her and end it. No point.
2006-11-08 05:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋