Shall I run away?

Question

It may seem as a daft question, but I am seriously thinking about it! I have lost my job, live away from my family, lost contact with friends as they have moved on, live with my partner who works shifts and over time all the time, and I am generally lonely and skint. Surley there has to be more to life than this!!

Answer 1

Well Sunshine I think that before you run away that you should talk it over with your man. Sounds like life isn't cracking up to be all it is suppose to be for you right now. Sometimes bad things happen to nice people but quite often, most of the time actually, we learn from these experiences and they serve to make us stronger. Hope that your life situation improves shortly and that you can find some happiness.

Answer 2

There is a better life, but running away won't get you to it. That will leave you lonely, unemployed, with no friends, AND in a new place where you don't know anyone, don't know where the stores are, and even further behind the 8 ball than you are now.

I know you don't want to hear it, but the best way is to work harder than ever at it. Find a new job, find a hobby that helps you make new friends, find a reason to contact your family and old friends. You have to make all this happen. It'll take time, but keep focused on the goal, and think how proud you'll be at the end when you can say, "Damn - I done good for myself!"

Answer 3

No!
Running away from things is never the answer.
Things will be better eventually.
Where will you go? It may be worse!

But.....
You have to work at what you have got if you want things to be better, as does your partner. You should let him/her know how you are feeling. Talking is the key. If there really is no hope then don't run away, just move on and do something different, with someone different. We only get one chance at this life thing so best to enjoy it.

Get yourself a job and hopefully your partner won't feel he has to work all the hours of the day and will spend more time with you.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

No I don't think that you should run away, because leaving only makes things worse.

As you are lonely why don't you go and visit your family as having a few days / weeks away will probably help to clear your head and getting away will help to put things into perspective. Talk to your partner and tell him how you feel, as he may be able to help you.

Also make the first more to get back in touch with your friends, as Christmas is coming sending them cards could be the first step. Also why don't you think about what you really want to do job wise and maybe even considering going back to college or to Uni.

Life is what you make and if you feel down sad then that's what you are going to be, you need to pick yourself up and get out there and I think that your first step should be to go and see your family for a while

Answer 5

Life is certainly what you make it and I choose adventure I am also in a similar situating. I live faraway from home and I am very lonely at times, that's just because i havent found the right lady yet,yes i have encountered more 1 nighters that i care to indulge but the fact is i still wake up alone and it bothers me, So i roll up my sleeves and go off and find good clean adventurous fun. Running away isn't the answer unless you have the means to and the wherewith all to do so a well orchestrated plan must be in tact, so little bird if you want to be set free send me your picture and start planning a bountiful and fruitful life, get out of the drab life your liven now. for things will only get worse if you let it ....Good Luck [e-mail]

Answer 6

Daft question? Heck, no. Lots of us have been in that spot (I remember my "lost my job" time. It can really hit you hard).

Run away where, to do what? The thing is, it's probably pointless to run away, as the stuff that comes "away" with you is just what you want to escape (fear/lonliness/sadness/etc). Running TO something can work, but AWAY usually doesn't.

So. How about this -- start with the "surely there has to be more to life than this" part. Of course there is - there are billions of people in the world and many, many choices out there. The one up side to not having to go to work every day is that you do have the time you wish you had when you were working.

Sure, some of it needs to be spent on looking for a new job, but any left over is available to consider just what it is you want out of life, what you enjoy doing, what's meaningful to you, what's satisfying for you, in other words, what you want to do with your life from here on in.

See, at some point, you'll find a new job - and it'd be nice if it bore at least a passing resemblance to something you would enjoy doing. You're not likely to stumble over that, since success depends on pinning down what you want, so part of your available time should go into figuring out what you want, so you can figure out how to get there from where you are.

When you get tired of the inside of your own head, get out and attack the "lonely" part. This is the perfect time of year to volunteer for charities - most of which have some kind of holiday thing coming up. Helping someone else will help you put your problems into perspective (i.e., you're not the only one having problems, your problem isn't unusual, and lots of people have been through it), and help you feel better (there you are, being useful and productive and making a difference in someone's life).

And you remember that many, many people have been in the fix you're in now and survived, even thrived. Is the situation unfortunate? Yes. Inconvenient? Most definitely? Terminal? Nope.

When this blip in your life is over, you'll be in a good position to have compassion for people who are having trouble - so you'll have gained something from it. Which doesn't make it more fun to go through, but if you have to eat the giant bowl of prunes, it's nice if there's a gift for doing it. Good luck!

Answer 7

i can see that your feeling upset and im reallysorry to hear about all your misfortune but what are you goin to accompolish by running away? if you run away you'll have all your current problems as well as being cold, homeless, and even more vunreble to rape,muggings ect. come on there must be something worth staying for. look for a new job that you LOVE, once you have more money move closer to your family or see them every weekend or something, call up your old mates and have a night out wit them, talk to your partner how you miss seeing them and wish you could see more of them, maybe they'll cut down on the work and you two could have some time alone, and finally if you run away think about who your going to hurt in the process. hope everything gets better for you xXx

Answer 8

Running away wouldn't be the answer but the problem is understandable. Maybe talk about how you feel with your family as they've known you the longest? Everyone does have parts in their life where they feel a bit detatched. It will always get better. Also what would running away do and where would you end up?

Answer 9

There is, but running away will not be the answer. You can never run away from yourself. You would be on your own in a strange place with no money, so what would be so different? Do your best to get another job, even voluntary work in the meantime - you will meet people and your confidence will increase. Best of luck.

Answer 10

No need to run away, but plan seriously to move away to a better life with enough money and preparation to make sure you get one!
In the meantime, imagine your life now as a movie. Distance yourself from it and focus on the hope in your future. You'll get through!