My girlfriend which is 11 years older than I am.Is ready for a commitment. She is everything a man is looking for a woman in bed. But attitude. Shes the kind of woman that will scream about everything that doesn't go her way. Plus she uses foul language when shes upset. I think for a lady to use that kind of language is not really a lady. What advice can you give me. Should I stay with her because if you think about it. Most women out there is either their way or else. Or just use her as a booty call. I don't want to lie to her because even though i hate it when she acts that way. I still love her. If i didn't love her I would have left her a long time ago. By the way she's 39 and I'm 28. I dont mind settling down. Its just with that attitude it makes me think twice .
2006-11-08 05:20:37 · 25 answers · asked by urhomiesid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her how you feel. I know it's like so cliche and all but if you want to settle down with her then she needs to make some compromises too...so that means she needs to clean her attitude and laguage up then so be it. Good luck!!
2006-11-08 05:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by JenniB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you love her, then stay with her. When you love someone, you love them unconditionally. You love their good and bad ways. You love them as a whole. I am sure she loves you completely. Only becuz she has one bad advantage to her doesnt mean, get rid of her or just use her for the booty.
Talk to her about her attitude and see if she is willing to make some changes to make the relationship a whole lot easier on the both of you guys. She may want you to change some things too. When you are in a relationship, you are willing to work on the relationship knowing that it wont always be perfect. You will never have a perfect relationship. Its like a flower you have to keep tending to, becuz if you dont, it will die.
So, both of you sit down and talk about committing to one another and let her know, for you to be willing to commit, she may have to tweak a few things, and that she is the best women for you, but tweaking this or that will make you more comfortable with committing.
Willing to work for your relationship is the key to a good relationship. I found that out with my relationship also.
2006-11-08 13:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay clear. If she is that way now and you are not even married, then you will have more issues later on. No one in a relationship should treat the other spouse like that. No one! If you put up with that, that shows a lot about you. You deserve better. And no you should not just stay with someone because they are good in bed. There are plenty of women that are great in bed and don't carry the extra baggage that she does! She needs to get a grip. How could you love someone who has hissy fits and acts like a 5 year old. Move on, and fall in love with someone who won't treat you like this. She is not worth it. If you are already complaining about her attitude, imagine if you were married?? America doesn't need another divorce! Haha, good luck and hope things go YOUR WAY.. Not hers..
2006-11-08 13:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by L I N D S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a misogynist. Most women are not that way some are and some are not. However, any attitude she has now will only intensify under the pressures of marriage. If you can't deal with it now run and do not look back. If however, you think your relationship is worth saving then maybe you can suggest joint counseling to address why she fly's off the handle and why you allow it.
2006-11-08 13:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, my friend - her attitude makes you think twice about settling down. Have you talked to her about WHY you don't want to settle down and is she willing to work on it? Or does she not think there's a problem. You may think most women are like that but there's someone out there for you who will make you happy in every way. Good Luck!
2006-11-08 13:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by wish2bwriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her and tell her what's up. Tell her you don't like the screaming and bad language. If you are doing things to make her scream though consider this as well. If she says she will change but doesn't your still young find a new woman. P.S. there are lots of women that are good in bed.
2006-11-08 13:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it man, I am talking from experience. Her attitude will never change. And no not every woman is her way or no way. It's just hard to find them. Plus look at it this way when yall are in you 50's and 60's the sex won't be there but the b1itching will. DON"T DO IT.
2006-11-08 13:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what is is about her that is making you scared to commit to her. Explain that her attitude and language is unacceptable to you. You, in no situation, should ever use a woman as a booty call. That's disrespectful and disgusting! Just talk to her, she can't read minds and has no clue what you're thinking unless you tellher about it.
Good luck!
2006-11-08 13:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by megha717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself, is this really the relationship I want? I disagree with the idea that most women always have to get their way, a good relationship will have A LOT of compromise. She may be everything a guy is looking for in bed, but that is one of those things that may or may not last forever, if it doesn't can you still be happy?
2006-11-08 13:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by mjbayunl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to tell you, but the attitude isn't going away. It's up to you if you feel you want to keep putting up with it or not. But using her as a booty call would not be fair to her or you. Karma will come back and bite you in the a**.
2006-11-08 13:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by divalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋