2006-11-08 05:19:03 · 11 answers · asked by WILLS316 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You let them know how sorry you are for their loss. If you knew the person who's deceased then you could try and relate an old antidote about them that may put a smile on their families face and make them feel good.
2006-11-08 05:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funerals can be uncomfortable/awkward (I recall the funeral for a friend's mom. There was mom, the former party girl with a taste for miniskirts in neon colors, tastefully attired in a wool suit. My friend looked at her mother, and said, "Well, it looks like Grandma and Grandpa finally got Mom to wear something they picked out for her").
You don't have to say anything witty or memorable - after all, this is about them, yes? And your desire to be supportive (and not put your foot in your mouth)?
You say something simple. "I'm so sorry for your loss," or words to that effect. If you knew the deceased and have a pleasant memory to share, you can, briefly ("I'll miss your Aunt's smile - it lit up the whole room"). Something honest, kind, and short will do.
If you didn't know the deceased at all, then stick to the "I'm so sorry for your loss." If you're close to the family, you look for ways to be helpful -- help clean up after the memorial reception, if it's a casual affair where the family sets up and cleans up afterward, for example.
All you have to do is be kind, and sincere (easy, since you do mean them well, right?). Just being there, and supportive, is enough. Good luck!
2006-11-08 13:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say I am so sory for your loss, and if you have some nice anecdote about them, thell the family. It's nice to hear people outside the family have nice things to say about their loved one. If you don't know the deceased well, just say you're sorry and move on.
2006-11-08 13:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now depends was he/she a good person and a joy to be around if so there offer your condolences for there loss and you feel awful just the same, BUT if they were a piece of **** then go and say Thank God that asshole cant terrorize the family anymore and Know now that there more room in heaven for people who deserve it! but send a card and just dont go to the funeral.
2006-11-08 13:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be genuine and express sorrow for their loss. Maybe follow up in a week or two with a card or a phone call telling them you are thinking about them.
2006-11-08 13:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by wish2bwriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you ar every sry for their loss....thats it....Normally the family that lost someone just wants to be held and they want to hear that you are thinking about them.
2006-11-08 13:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by acoats2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you are sorry and hug/shake hands. Maybe ask if there is anything you can help with.
2006-11-08 13:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by heidifreckles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell them how greatly sorry you are for their lose and if there is anything that u could do to comfort them in any way just to let u know. Just basically be there for them to listen to them and comfort them.
2006-11-08 13:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by ricoville 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your lost and if you need anything don't hesitate to call
2006-11-08 14:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what you should say i am sorry for your loss if you need anything let me know and end with that
2006-11-08 16:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by sandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋