Two of her friends at school are telling her that the tooth fairy and Santa are just your mom and dad. Then she says to me,"but why would you guys lie to me about it?"
Do I tell her the truth, do I let her wait up to see Santa, Do I just wait on it? I don't want to hurt her or have her feel as though we have lied to her.
2006-11-08 05:10:40 · 30 answers · asked by dogriver 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i'm with nuzzi.... tell her the real story of santa!! yes she will be hurt but maybe not as bad when she hears a man like that really was real and was pulled by reindeer, gave kids presents and all but wasn't magic and couldn't fly. and you along with other parents are trying to keep his memory alive also ask her if she would like to be a santa to a child that might not have christmas presents. just a thought. i haven't been through this yet but that is my plans for my son he is just 3 but when he is 5 i'm telling him so other kids won't break his heart. as for the tooth fairy? you got me
2006-11-08 05:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you shouldn't have lied to her about it in the first place. Never tell your child that the tooth fairy, santa claus, and etc. are real. When they find out the truth, they will think that it's ok to lie. Plus, children are more disappointed when they find out on their own than from their parents. When I have a child, I will never tell them that fantasy characters are real. I would just tell them that they for entertainment. Telling a child that a santa claus brings them present is not a good idea. Never lie to your children!
2006-11-09 03:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by *T1nk* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell here the truth her questioning is the result of her dealing with the disbelief. i don't believe that the traditions based around Santa should die continue for a while with surprise gifts and stockings if these are your traditions and slowly as she gets older possibly do a name trade on stockings with an allotted expenditure. It keeps it fun for the whole family. If she has younger siblings it is good practice to let her keep the secret. I think that children often ask when they already know but are fear full of the implications of the loss of Santa the gift giver. Don't discourage her imagination though and keep up with story's and creative projects these are all benifits of the Christmas tradtion.
2006-11-08 05:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Will 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now you tell her the truth. My husband and I never started the Santa Claus, tooth fairy, Easter Bunny thing with our son for that very reason. He knew where his toys came from and to him, Santa Claus was just a character in cartoons at Christmas like any other fictional character. He is fine. We did tell him to not tell any of the other kids who do believe in Santa Claus, because that is their parents decision.
2006-11-08 06:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her that if she believes in magic, then Santa is real. Tell her that some people believe in him, and others don't. She might say she doesn't understand how one man can live in the north pole and have enough resources to make gifts for every boy and girl and then fly around the world delivering them. She's right after all. Agree with her points and tell her that that's why for Santa to be real, one has to believe in magic.
The spirit of Christmas is giving and Santa Claus is a wonderful symbol of the joy of sharing with others with out expecting anything in return. Children live in an imaginary world and Santa fits into this world perfectly with all his magic accomplishments. The real shame would be to deprive a child all the joy and anticipation that comes with believing in Santa. While it may hurt to find out Santa isn't a real person, the parent's job is to teach the lesson behind Santa, giving of yourself without expectations to bring happiness to others
2006-11-08 05:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by family_matters 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you did lie to her though. And you're going to have to come clean with it at some point. MIght as well be now. Theres no reason to mislead your children for the sake of fun.
I felt as though I had been greatly wronged to learn there was no santa. For all the rest of my siblings my parents never did that nonsense again. Because where do you draw the line? lies are lies.
Just tell her the truth.
I have a friend who's sister is 12, has her period, baby sits other kids, and still believes in santa. Its just delusional behavior and its not good to encourage it.
2006-11-08 05:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The truth! Don't compound the situation by lying to cover up another lie. By sitting on it, shows indecision and will only make the problem worse. Come clean with her.
Do some fact gathering about Santa Claus and explain it all to her.
Truthfully, he does exist, in books and our imagination, use that.
2006-11-08 05:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Versatile 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was hurt when I found out I had been being lied to, but I got over it. I don't hold it against my parents anymore, now that I am an adult. LOL. She has to find out eventually, and it usually starts when other kids tell them, like has just happened. You should probably tell her if she continues to question it. In fact, you should have a discussion about it and tell her anyway, before it gets worse. You just have to try to explain that Santa is a fun thing for kids to believe in, and it's not a lie to be mean, it's just meant to be fun for kids. She has already begun to find out now, so you can't keep it from happening. If you keep telling her he is real, she might get more angry later when her friends successfully convince her about it.
~Kyle
2006-11-08 05:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kyleontheweb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth. She has to know sometime otherwise she wont know what to do when she is older and still doesnt know if Santa is realy or not. Lets just say she is 34 and has 2 kids. She still doesnt know if santa is real. She doesnt buy presents because she THINKS that he is still real. Christmas Moring the 2 kids wake up, and they have nothing. Even in there stockings. 1 night and she knows that santa isnt real. Her kids arent confident that their going to get presents next christmas. Tell her the truth before its too late.
2006-11-08 10:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by GorgeousGal10 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that all of these people are insane. y daughter is six years old and if anyone ever told her santa wasnt real i would be so upset. It is not a lie when we are only trying to keep our childrens imaginations alive. I was actually 11 when the kids made fun of me for thinking he was real. I even told them that my parents were broke and there was no way that they could afford all those presents. then i of course asked my mom and she told me the real story and how we tell our children this to keep the magic alive and if you just believe then you will know. It is fun for them. I never hated my mom for it. I was glad that she did that all those years because christmas wouldnt have been the same otherwise. I would never tell my daughter that I was the one buying all those presents until she was older. dont ruin her fun.let her believe and you are not a liar. you have a heart.
2006-11-08 05:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by mamamia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋