on/off relationship:i was doing the dumping bc he was moody/careless sometimes(talked about how hot other girls were).he sed he did it bc it seemed like i didn't care n he liked when girls get jealous bc it shows that they care.sometimes(when i dump him and ask to get back together) he says he wants to be good friends and other times(when i'm moving on)he looks @ me all starry-eyed and asks me if i want a relationship.this happened about 3 times since he last dumped me.we're in college but that really has nothing to do with it,except i really love him which is why i keep sticking with him,but i get the feeling that i'm just temporary,like something to keep him company while he browses around.used to be serious but i dumped him for 5months n now he's less serious. dumped him last night bc i caught him checking out another girl,and this morning he said that he didn't want a relationship.some girl told him that he should come hang out at this spot that he normally hates and he said yes
2006-11-08 05:07:18 · 10 answers · asked by samoa s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Things can never be the way theey were. Relationships should not be this difficult..... Move on
2006-11-08 05:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Wild seed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, depends. personally, no matter how much i loved someone, if they treated me the way he treats you, i'd definitely not get back together with her. Do you seriously and truely love the man? Because from what you've said doesn't sound like he loves you all that much, and you'd definitely be better off finding someone else who will treat you better. Also you have to take into account how long you and him have been togther, and how many times you've broken up and gotten back together, and how he's treated you in the past,etc. To decide if this relationship is worth saving. Because i've found all relationships that i've ever had have had a certian amount of time for them, and then they naturally just end, and there's no point in trying to drag out a relationship that has reached its end point. For this just puts off the inevitable, and your going to hurt that much worse when you do it, so your better off just getting it done and over with.
2006-11-08 13:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lee J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does it take for you to g et a clue? It sounds like he is your ex because you didn't like the way he was behaving. He's still playing the field, and you are wanting him back? Whatever it is keeps you clinging to this guy, it sure isn't love. I think it is some kind of emotional dependency. Anyway, nothing looks like changing as far as he is concerned. Sounds like the man simply is not ready for a serious commitment to anyone.
Life is short enough as it is and you're "burnin' daylight" as they s ay in my neck o'th woods. Move on, and find somebody who can make you truly happy , in a way that you certainly are not at the moment.
2006-11-08 13:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think you deserve better than this moody/careless, disrespectful jerk who is wasting your time and emotions with so much drama? Imagine if you put all this effort into your studies and your future instead of playing this dumb game with him.
The "way you were" was on/off with a moody jerk - why do you wan to get that back? Move on. This has nothing to do with love, it's insecure little mind games.
2006-11-08 13:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want things to be the way they used to be, but wh? Things were never good bwt you. that 's not so say there weren't good times, but those are with anyone (good times. things are rarely ALL bad). Obviously, there is no real relationship between you. and things now will fall apart fast. but it is just a natural part of things...and it will eventually be good; you will see that later,if you don't feel it even now deep down. I do know the pain you are going through though...everyone's been there. "this too will pass," and when it does you will be stronger, smarter, and even (believe if or not now) happier.
2006-11-08 13:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by atur.service 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to move on, you are going no where in that relation ship especially if it is on/off. You need to find a man who can take care of you and will respect you. Good Luck.
2006-11-08 13:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by princessaranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who will be loyal to you. He's afraid of being alone, so he keeps coming back, but obviously he's not ready to stick with you.
2006-11-08 13:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You two have nothing but drama in common.
2006-11-08 13:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else it will never be the same it might be good for a few months if that but thats all you can hope for
2006-11-08 13:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by sevenout7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is like a piece of paper.......
once you crumple it up it will never go back to the way it once was
2006-11-08 13:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by dom_parnell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋