Anyone forgiven a man who broke up your relationship because of another woman and then realised the mistake?

Question

Hello, I'm asking this question, not in the search of advice but mostly wondering if things like this really can happen.
The way things stand now i'm completely into the "NO WAY, I can't take him back after he hurt so much"....eventhough he cries infront of me and asks for forgiveness. I don't hate him but would never be able to return into a relantionship with him now.
I would just like to read (if any exist) of cases where the man (or woman) DID manage to prove his/her love and regain the trust and love of the person they did wrong to ..... and that obviously it worked out in the end. I'm curious to know...
Thank you

Answer 1

i think once a cheater always a cheater BUT yes sometimes people can realize the mistake they made... i love my husband so much and if anything like that ever happened i know i would want to firgive him.. maybe 1 more chance.. if you get suspicious or if he really does do it again then that should be it...tell him you want him to have absolutely nothing to do with her in any way if you take him back

Answer 2

Sometimes people think the grass is greener but it hardly ever is, my best friends husband cheated on her quite a few times she found out and they split,
Neither of them had any decent relationships after that and were seperated for about 2 years,
They have recently got back together and he swears this will never happen again, but she says it is always in the back of her mind and everytime they have a fight she brings it up, Ive told her if she wants him back then they have to have a complete fresh start and she must totally forgive him otherwise there is just no point, it will just eat away at both of them.
I cant tell you they will have a happy ending as only time will tell but my money is on NO,
everyone deserves a second chance but once you have got away with it doesn't it put a thought in you head that they will forgive you again, and again and again

I am married and my thoughts are that I could probably forgive a drunken one night stand if they were really sorry and felt totally ashamed, and also if they do their dammed hardest that i dont find out
but a full blown affair when they have lied in your face and actually had a relationship behind your back that is true deceit and i could never forgive that. Its not the sex its the fact that he would have shared moments with another woman probably told her he loved her etc, Never forgive that.

Answer 3

I know someone who did that, three -or was it four times! I got so fed up of consolling her when he'd clear off again (with the same woman) that now he's back (for the fourth time) I just treat them both as though he's never been away! He's the one that's embarrassed and is having to make all the effort to make us talk to him. He's lost so many friends, and some of her family won't even speak to him. One won't even stay in the same room, which I think is a bit stupid. I mean, who's hurting here?
The first time, he leaves and we pick up the pieces. He comes back and all is lovey dovey with all of us until we find that he's only after the house!
The second time, when he realises he ain't gonna get it, he leaves and we pick up the pieces. He comes back and does a lot of grinning, but us, we're not so sure now.
The third time, because we've lost interest now, we're not so sure why he leaves, but he does and we sort of pick up the pieces and tell her what a fool she is and how she shouldn't even be thinking about him and all that clap trap (we'd said it all before!) But she LOOOOOOOVES him! Big G help her!
Now he's back and they really do seem a lot more together. Mind you it's still 'the honeymoon' period. But they're happy and don't seem to mind spending time on their own in their own little world (which is probably a good job, because a lot of people just got so fed up of them both!).
I just hope they can make a go of it. It would be nice to know that miracles do happen.

Answer 4

I personally would forgive him but not take him back. I mean heshouldnt have screwed up in the first place and it would be his loss. Once you lose trust its very very hard to gain it back. And whos to say he wont do it again to you? I would just move on and find someone new. Love hurts but thats life. Move on and think of it as a new beginning. Thats what Im doing right now. I know I would never take back the guy I just broke up with he cheated on me with some girl and got her pregnant. So now I have a new outlook on life and Im starting over Im even moving to another city/state. Good luck and God bless!!!

Answer 5

I have a friend who's partner never admitted cheating but went through a suspicious phase where the phone never stopped and he became interested in a lot of other activities that did not involve my friend.

she knows there was a 'thing' with a certain girl, apparently nothing happened. She like to believe that, who wouldn't but its always in the back of her mind and I know she could happily break his mobile sometimes.

He told her he was not sure things were working when she asked him if something was going on. She had prepared herself for moving on after getting herself together for a few months, then things seemed to get better.

Now they both say things are better then ever but there is still that doubt.

Answer 6

It happens, but i think it all comes down to the most important thing in any relationship....trust. If he left yopu for someone else and has now realised his mistake can you trust him not to do that again? It'd take a whole superhuman effort to regain that sort of trust, and to be honest you'll never have the same relationship you had before, there'll always be that little doubt.....

Answer 7

No, after 5 mins
No, after 5 months
No, after 5 years
No way, not now not ever. I had that happen to me nearly twelve years ago my ex left me for the only friend he let me have, he was very controlling and I just took it as love. I wouldn't have him back if his hair was dripping in gold.
The thing is I would never be able to trust him, so what's the point.

Answer 8

A leopard never changes it's spots so i think once someone cheats they can do so again. And if you're completely honest with yourself would you ever really be able to forget what he did to you and how much he hurt you?
You deserve better than this so without sounding harsh do yourself a favour forget about him, move on and find the guy that really will treat you special and not do anything to hurt you.

Answer 9

You can forgive him but I wouldn't suggest allowing him back in to a romantic relationship with you. It won't work. He'll think you'll forgive him again and again and therefore do it over and over again. I've seen a woman cheat on her husband, get caught, ask for forgiveness and then, after some time goes by, start up again....let's see how long it takes her to get caught this time around.

Answer 10

i have a friend who was totally in love with a man although he had a partner..they got together and he left his partner but realised it was the wrong thing to do because of family commitments etc so begged for her forgivness..she has accepted him backafter they have been together for a very long time..i think she finds it hard to trust him again and she probably will after time,my friend was really upset about their relationship breaking up but she was also happy they had both moved on and she has now moved on too..and the couple are still together.....i think its hard to forgive and forget...but if you love that person and have committments then it may be worth another shot.....good luck whatever you decide hun xx