hey my name is Garrett Daum and I was dating this girl for one year and 1 month and she is the girl of my dreams, however im in college now and shes still in highschool and we are now 3 hrs away but i still saw her like every 2 weeks. then one day she tells me shes been hanging out with this guy but thes just a friend and i let that go. 5 days later shes wants to go on break and im an all or nothing type of guy but i allowed it cuz i lover her so much, then he asks her out and shes currently dating him but she promises me im the one she loves and just wants to experience having a boyfriend in her own highschool. I promised I 'd wait for her but i know shes doing stuff with him and shes starting to talk to some othwer guy too. All we do now is fight cuz i constantly ask when are you taking me back? even her family says it was tupid to let me go cuz her family loves me...How can I win her back I cant live without her shes my everything...please help
2006-11-08 04:47:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as you're begging (and that's what it is - begging!) her to take you back, she knows she can do whatever she wants, and she'll still have you to go back to...... IF nothing else works out for her. From what you've written, it sounds as though you're a very worthwhile guy - someone that lots of young women would just LOVE to have a relationship with - well, the smart ones, anyway. Keep in mind, your ex is in high school, and very young. (t's probably hard on her to not have a date on Friday night when all her friends do.) Also, she might have a few "wild oats to sow" before she's ready to settle down with one guy.... But, know what? You're young, too. Why not take this "break-up" time as an opportunity to meet some other girls - maybe,someone in one of your classes. (At least, you'll have something in common to talk about.) Get involved in some of the extra-cirricular activities around your campus. You know, something that you're really interested in. You' ll probably find plenty of women who are interested in the same things. (Right now, you're building your whole world around ONE person, which isn't wise in the long run.) You might just find out that you CAN live without your ex - or, if nothing else, you will learn a lot about how to handle yourself around women. (Begging them to come back to you is not the way, sweetie. It just makes you seem desperate.) I know this is very, very difficult advise to take. You might be homesick, and wishing things could be the way they used to be. For many, the first year of college is hard to adapt to, but adapting is one of the most important lessons you can learn in life. There's a big world out there - lot's of things to see, places to go, and people to meet. It's sad if you choose to cling to the past at such a young age. And, you never know, your ex might just notice how mature and interesting you're becoming, and decide that those high school "boys" aren't so "all-that" after all. That's when she might start begging you to take her back - that is, IF you'll still have her! Think about it - and, best of luck to you.
PEACE
2006-11-08 05:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by 1staricy2nite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop messing with this young chick period. She just wanted you for a while, now she is messing with someone else. She doesnt love you becuz if she did, she wouldnt be dating someone else.
Lets say 2 yrs down the line and she sees a guy she likes and she says...well, i wanna go on break, becuz i wanna date this guy. What the hell? She knows that she will always have you sitting there waiting for her beck and call while she is doing things with other boys and probably even having sex with these other guys. If she loved you, she wouldnt do this.
You seem like you are just settling for her, becuz she has been the only girl you have known for a yr and some change. You need to find something better. You seem like a good dude, you dont deserve to get treated like that. You are waiting for a highschooler to come back to you. You are in college waiting for a highschooler to come back to you. You are an old guy, waiting for a young chick to say...okay I am ready for you now. She is going to keep you on the rebound until she gets bored with these other guys. To me...she wants to just hoe around for a little while, and still drag you along and think its funny that she can do it.
You deserve better man.
2006-11-08 12:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this exact same thing. I know you must really love her to say you'd wait for her but not for nothing shes not waiting for you. You can't win her back if she doesn't want to be taken back but...Your in college! This is the best time of your life. I am not saying you have to abandon your love for this high school chick but I'm sure there alot of girls that you can become friends with at least to take her off your mind. You don't have to go out with anyone just hang out. The best part is you can still see your highschool chick too because you will have that common understanding that you two are on break. Who knows maybe your heart will change too but don't let her lead you on. She can't have two guys that wouldn't be fair to you.
2006-11-08 12:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jaime P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man you are in college, you better just let that little high school girl go. Obviously she does not care about you. Just let her go. And not to sound mean, but you brought this on yourself. How in the world could you say it was OK for her to date this other guy. Pure stupidity!! Anyway, she is over you, she doesn't care what her parents think, she just wants to have her cake and eat it too. Enjoy life, this is not the end. You are in college you don't need a girlfriend anyway. These are the best days of your life. LIVE IT UP. Leave her alone, move on, because she has.
2006-11-08 12:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you're in college and you're pining over a high school girl who can't decide between boyfriends? She's not mature enough to be dating steadily. Leave her for some college girl that is. Love may be a factor, but maturity is everything when dating someone so young. If you think its bad now, wait till she sexually peaks. Take a step back, and love her enough to let her go.
2006-11-08 12:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Garrett. You have to let her live her life. You cannot force her to want to be with you. She is still young and needs to experience different things. If she loves you as much as you love her...she will come back to you. But, in the meantime, get out and meet some new women. Have fun!
2006-11-08 12:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is playing with you, she wants to date this new guy but she also wants you on the back burner as a last resort in case they don't work out. You are better than a potential last resort, come on you are in college!! So am I and the dating atmosphere is amazing, your surrounded by so many singles your age go find someone worth your time.
2006-11-08 12:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can tell u that u're losing her. 'then he asks her out and shes currently dating him but she promises me im the one she loves and just wants to experience having a boyfriend in her own highschool' this is crap.
it happened to one of my close friend n e only way left is to really really try very hard in telling her how u feel, she's ur everything n all. do not fight, cos it'll definitely cause her to move closer to e other guy.
take heart. if it doesn work out, life goes on..
2006-11-08 12:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by wallybelly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well not that a girl actualy like gut that get along with their family expecialy when their i high school but just try playing it cool she knows that you want her which make her feel good to push it along
2006-11-08 12:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is a playa...From my perspective, you are a nice guy and should perhaps look for a more 'loyal' gf.
http://www.freewebs.com/infosource100/love1.html
2006-11-08 12:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋