Alright, this is a very long story, but I need some help really bad. My younger brother and I are homeschooled and have been for two years. Our mom teaches us, while our dad works. It was wonderful, and fun. Well, all of a sudden, my dad's office was sold and the new people don't want him and let me tell you, he was very high up on the list, CFO/Vice President. So he now works at home. They offered him a job at a different better part of the company, but he doesn't want it. We want him to take it.
Now, I once I say that, I can tell you why. Alright, at the beginning it was okay. But now none of us can stand him. You say the wrong thing to him, and that's it, there's a yelling match. I can't listen to what kind of music I like if he is around. None of us can talk on the phone without him being right there correcting or telling us what to say. We can't watch what we want to without him say everything is bad about it (Ugly Betty, Disney Channel, Maury, GMA..will add more
2006-11-08 04:46:35 · 12 answers · asked by Hockey Girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, and a bunch of other shows we watch. For my parent's 20th annver. he got my mom a massage certificate at a day spa, and my mom hates massages. He was there getting once for his secretary, so he thought, "Oh, I'll just get her one too so I don't have to go looking." He makes us do stuff we don't want to do all the time. I work out, and I like it. But he has to come out there and watch. I like this time to be by myself, so that I can think. We have to do school for six hours everyday!! With homeschooling, you get to do it on your schedule, and for how every long you want. Not with him around, I use to love school. But now I hate it! I can't work for three hours straight without getting horrible headaches. I use to have time to write (I'm an author in the making), but I can't even be alone long enough to get a page done. Oh, and then there is this whole RV trip he wants to go on, and he is not taking any job offers until we come back. I don't want to go. I mean,......
2006-11-08 04:55:09 · update #1
We are planning on moving. I will be a sophomore in high school, and I want to get to know the area before I go to school. You know? We have a family email, so I can't even tell anyone I know about this because he reads my emails. We have one computer that gets emails, and my mom and I are lucky if we get to see it for two hours a day, and she is a hockey manager. And I play on two out of state hockey teams, so emails are very important. And my dad won't even tell her when something important comes in. We were in Canada this past weekend and I was playing hockey. We lost all our games to the Canadians (We are from TN). I did great, and all I get from him is, "You'll just have to practice more." I practice everyday!! And my girls couldn't score for anything. And we can't leave the house for anything! We get yelled at if we do.
Alright, I think I am done, for now.
PS- I can't talk to him about any of this because he will just yell.
2006-11-08 05:02:58 · update #2
Oh, my mom feels the same way, and she can't talk to him about anything. He'll just yell. And about school: I was a straight A student before I left school, so it is not different now.
2006-11-08 05:07:40 · update #3
It shounds like your dad is stressed out...But you need to realize that is a tough thing to deal with and you need to respect and love your dad for who he is. When I was growing up I fought with my dad alot and I regret it. He died 2 years ago even though we were on very good terms when he died I regret all the argueing we did when i was younger. He's your dad the only one you will ever have so try and be supportive of him and tell him he will feel better if he goes back to work and gets back on his regular schedule.
2006-11-08 05:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is probably very unhappy he lost his job and is taking it out on whoever is in his path. What is he doing now? Lower down the pole than he was before? If so, this is very hard on him and he probably does not mean to be mean but it is so easy when you lose so much. Maybe a little understanding at this time would help. He is discouraged and the money will probably be alot less than what he is used to. Maybe you should just sit him down and talk to him and tell him that you are sorry about what happened and things will get better. I assume he is young. He can get another job.
2006-11-08 04:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia S 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Cool dad
2016-05-21 22:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i have the SAME exact problem. well sort of... You see, I'm homeschooled with my little brother and my dad is self-employed (contractor) and business is slow so he's around the house alot. He hates my music, the shows i watch, my friends, my beliefs, and he loves controlling my life. From what clothes i wear, to what type of poetry i write. -_-
So i've learned to stay as far away from him as i can. Any problems that i've got with him, i tell it to my mom. Does your dad listen to your mom alot? if so, let your mom get him to take the job and meanwhile, act like your dad has a 10 ft force field and stay away. One thing i've learned about dads is they won't change for ANYTHING unless you ask your mom to talk to him. It's just that the more time you spend together in the same house, everyone goes insane. Trust me...
Hope it helps
2006-11-08 04:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Child of Coal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your father has been through a lot. Be extra kind to him. It is an emotional upheaval and very stressful for him, especially being the financial provider, and suddenly having a big part of his identity "taken away".
Encourage him to take the position. what does your mom think?
maybe he needs to be out of the house. If he is a more "traditional" dad, then he will feel strange and out of place working at home. Try to get your mom to encourage him to get this better office job.
2006-11-08 04:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by kristin c 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were in your situation I would tell your dad how much you love him and you know everything will work out and that you will support him in whatever he chooses. You will find that things will get better and the more you love him and support him the faster things will get better. He will probably get another job but he is under alot of stress, just remember that the more you support and love him the better things will get. This is only temporary.
2006-11-08 04:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by Julie J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cut him some slack.
If he is the sole provider of the household, he is faced with a lot of stress.
Try helping him out with the expenses from your own pay checks and then you might get the feeling of what he is going through.
Ask him if there is anything he would like you to do.
When was the last time that you let him know that he mattered in your life.
Your family needs to be united during this time, not fall more apart.
2006-11-08 04:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you are a very lucky family to have parents who care about you and your education.
Try talking with your dad _without_ confronting him about anything. You might ask him to explain why he feels that your favorite tv shows are bad, doesn't like about your music, etc.
Give it a shot. You may be pleasantly surprized to find a real, live, caring human in your dad.
2006-11-08 04:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by credo quia est absurdum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to find another job fast!
2006-11-08 06:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, make him understand the problem
2006-11-08 04:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋