how do i tell him without him freaking out and leaving me i'm just scared that he's gonna run out on me or he tells me that it ain't his ????
2006-11-08 04:40:56 · 15 answers · asked by chela sanchez 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Don't be afraid
Tell him in a happy voice like it is good news.
2006-11-08 05:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was young when i got pregnant with my son i was 19 and my boyfriend ( who is now my husband) was 21 and there really is no right way to tell him, just be honest with him. he may take it well but also be preparred for him to freak out and get really defensive, i got everything from, it isnt mine, to you were tying to trap me, he was so upset but he came around, if he is a good guy then he will be there for you and your baby no matter what if he leaves then he wasnt a real man to begin with, i know telling him that you are pregnant can be a big big big deal and it can sometimes be hard to do but just lay it out on the table and be honest and let him know what you plan on doing you never know he could be really happy. i hope this helps a bit if you need some more support feel free to email me at lacey_unne@yahoo.com and i will help you further with more ideas on how to tell him, GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU
2006-11-08 13:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by ~ Lace ~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you're afraid of him leaving you because you're pregnant you slept with the wrong guy! No matter how you tell him, a coward runs. Next time choose a man. Frankly, from what you say here, he'll be gone in less than three years.
2006-11-08 12:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, now, we have got a bit of a situation here, haven't we ?
How old are you guys ? Are you certain you are pregnant ? How long have you been together ? Has he any reason to suspect he is not the father ? What makes you think he will run out on you ?
Very difficult to advise, but usually the simplest way is the best. Just tell him, face to face.
2006-11-08 12:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cannot change his reaction. You should tell him. If he leaves, you don't want that kind of man in your life anyway. I'm sorry you feel so stressed out over this. Tell him somewhere comfortable, like his house or yours. Just get out there. Don't expect him to come back with anything right away, he'll be in shock.
Best of luck to you!
2006-11-08 12:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can understand how you feel because I am now facing the same thing but I still havent told him but I think its best for you to go ahead and tell him cause if you wait any sooner then he may start saying why you wait so long to tell him and may think its not his so the best thing will be to tell him to keep from facing them problem in the long run.
2006-11-08 20:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by youngbreezy_123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit him down and be honest with him. but before you do, have a friend on standby for you to be able to call or for them to come over, for emotional support.
and remember not to "freak out" at his reaction. it will be just that, his gut reaction. give him time to process the whole thing.
guys tend to run because they think the announcement means automatic pressure.
if you let him know from the beginning that you will be patient and give him time, he will eventually be able to figure out exactly how he feels about it without feeling pressured into anything. his decision will be a lot more genuine and trustworthy that way.
2006-11-08 13:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't NOT tell him! Figure out a way to best ease it on him but don't forget that this will be a little bit scary for him for sure. After you tell him, give him his space but if he is a responsible man he will take care of what is his!
Best of luck!
I'm preggers with twins and my husband and I couldn't be happier!
2006-11-08 13:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by Troopers_Gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, be prepared for tough questions, the biggest being is "are you sure it's mine". Decide on the answers ahead of time, you know us guys are going to ask those questions.
Also, if you weren't using protection, he's going to ask how come? It's our responsibility too, but we always rely on the woman. Good luck. Fix or go out to dinner and talk about it.
2006-11-08 12:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by Randy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest about it. how does he feel about being a father? just ask him how he feels about having kids someday... and then say, well, how does about 9 months from now work for you? good luck hun. and if he freaks out, dont' worry, he'll calm down... and if he doesn't, the state will help you out.
2006-11-08 12:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u didn't give him any reason to think that its not his there should be no problem (r u sure its his) if it is his . then just tell him. if he runs out on u. you know where u stand . then its your choice to keep this baby or not. he sounds like an azz
2006-11-08 12:44:12 · answer #11 · answered by inna357 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋