can i help my son?

Question

my son's girlfriend is a huge drama queen and whines alot, she also calls alot,emails,writes letters,text messaging,and spends the week-ends, she goes to school about 120 miles from here, she at our home from friday thru monday, Since he has been with her (3mouths) he has become moody and quite. what can i ddo to help.

Answer 1

IT WON'T LAST, BUT DON'T TELL HIM THAT; RELATIONSHIPS LIEK THESE WILL HELP HIM MATURE AND GROW UP, LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THE SITUATION AND YOU DISAPROVE OF IT AND LET HIM KNOW IT'S UNHEALTHY AS WELL.

I WOULDN'T PUT UP WITH THAT, BUT THAT'S ME, PUTTING UP WITH THAT JUST MEANS YOUR AN OVER ALL GOOD PERSON, BUT ENOUGH IS ENOUGH WHY IS SHE THERE AND HE'S NOT THERE??? I WOULD ASK THAT, SEE HOW SHE REACTS TO THAT DRAMA QUEEN OR NOT. HE PROBALLY LIKES HER BECAUSE SHE'S NICE TO HIM OR PAYS ATTENTION TO HIM... HOW ARE THE GIRLS AT HISC SCHOOL TOWARDS HIM? OPEN UP AND ASK THE BOY FIND OUT. MAYBE HE HAS NO CONFIDENCE IN DATING FROM SCHOOL? MAYBE HE'S BEEN HEART-BROKEN

MANY FACOTRS COME INTO PLAY A DAD TO SON WILL HELP, MAYBE IF HE SEE YOUR VIEW AND LETS HIM KNOW SHE'S NOT THE ONLY GIRL HE WILL DUMP THE BROAD!! THEN YOU CAN DO A VICTORY DANCE... TRUST ME IT WON'T LAST SHE'S A USER.

Answer 2

It's a careful line to walk. You want to help, but this really isn't a decision you can make for him.

First, say something like, "It seems like you've had a lot on you mind lately. Anything you want to talk about? You can use me as a sounding board, and I promise to keep my opinions to myself unless you ask for it." May not work, but it opens up the opportunity.

Second, I'd avoid offering your opinion too freely. Most guys I know get sick of this kindof clinginess eventually. This will happen quicker if he's not put in the position of defending her to you.

Third, keeping your feelings about her to yourself, however, has nothing to do with letting her stay over all damn weekend. I'd tell him that although you respect that she's his girlfirned, she's still spending too much time over there. He has other responsibilities, school work, chores, etc. It's impossible for the family to spend time without her. Set specific times she can come over and then she has to leave. I wouldn't let her spend the night either. Giving him some breathing room during the weekend may be enough to put the brakes on it.

Answer 3

Whatever you do do not infer that his behavior changes are caused by her...this will make him run straight into her arms. However, I would talk to him casually with small statements like, "I noticed you're quiet today", Avoid statements that would offer a yes or no answer such as "Are you ok"....you need to get him to open up a little bit. Don't put him on the spot because that will make him defensive. Talk to him about his plans for the weekend, etc. Keeping dialogue open will help him open up, but if you say to him, "You know, ever since you've been with so and so, you've been moody....that will surely backfire on you. Just keep your feelers out so that he doesn't become "depressed" or anything. best of luck to you!

Answer 4

Is your son annoyed and bothered by this? If so then he should tell her to slow down and ease up.

You dont have to let her in your home. If it disturbs you, then talk to your son and tell him so. If he refuses to tell her to calm herself and not be such a pain...then tell him to start looking for his own place.

Or else help him get a job and find a cheap motel where he can entertain his plaything there on the weekends. You dont have to be mean, host them both to a casual dinner twice a month, just make certain that they leave after the meal. TOGETHER. Make sure that you let them know it is nothing personal, but you're certainly not going to be the brothel for those two over sexed youths.

Answer 5

Just ask him if he wants to talk about it, ask him why he's moody. Guys don't like to talk about emotional stuff, so you have to approach gently. He probably senses that you disapprove of the situation. If you do, continuing with allowing this girl to spend all weekend with you without saying anything (in a nice way, of course) will eventually end up in an explosive situation. Better to talk about things before before everyone gets mad.

Answer 6

This is a hard one. My boyfriend is going through the same thing. When he tried to talk to him about the girl he was with, his son moved to Akron, Oh. 3 hours away. He is going to go talk to him this Sunday about coming home. I told him to be careful as he may go further away. This time he was lucky and had a few leads to go on to find him. I told him the next time you may not be so lucky.It may be that your son really likes this girl but wishes she would change. I doubt that she will as not knowing her i would say she is all about herself. You may ask your son this ( do you like her but wishes she would change ) and see if you can get a dialog going with him. No matter what, be there for him. Chickens, like our kids, always come home to roost. Good luck

Answer 7

Just let her know that after much thought you have decided its not proper for her to live with you on the weekends. She needs to be with her family. Besides you know you are having to pay for her meals and she is not a good influence on your son either. Your the parent, its your house and you are in charge of your son on what is and isn't good for his well being. Make the move and talk with her parents. I am sure if it was the other way around they would not let your son live there 4 days a week. I bet they love getting rid of her

Answer 8

All you need to do is let him know that if there is anything bothering him that he can come to you,Let him know that you are there for him and if there are any questions that he may have that he can feel free to come to you at any time.

Answer 9

I would sit him down and ask him if he wanted someone to talk to about whatever is obviously bothering him.

let him know you are there for him if and when he decides he wants to talk.

advise him to find someone to talk to if he doesn't feel comfortable talking with you. and let him know it's okay if it isn't you he wants to talk to.

Answer 10

well, put your kid on the MTV show Parental Control. you get to pick 2 girls for your boy and he gets to go on dates with them while you watch the dates on your tv. he will pick his old girlfriend, or one of his new hook ups.