We see each other every weekend, we live in different town.
We've been to several short trips together, next week we're going to Spain. He invited me to his familly's Xmas, first time to invite someone over for Xmas in his life...
I see he's very much in love with me, in every aspects of his action, though we haven't mentioned the "L word" yet.
I'm Japanese, and not so familiare to use that word at all.
Should I wait for him to say, or do you think I can say the word from my self? I always thought it's better for girls to NOT to say it first, to make relationship last...
What's the truth?
2006-11-08 04:20:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in love. it will only make your relationship grow stronger if you tell him. there is no such rule that always the guy should say it. u both are equally involved in this, and so , even if one person says it , the other will accept it whole-heartedly. thats the essence and the beauty of it. you both have got everything on ur hands. give it ur best shot and ur 100 percent. and he must be knowing the fact that u love him ...maybe he's even more eager than u are....so just say it coz u'll be proud of urself for confessing first what you felt to the one u love.
hope he loves u more.
2006-11-08 04:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by __Athena__ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your avator doesn't make me you look Japanese. If you heartbeat races, can't stop thinking about him, dream of the future, etc., then maybe you can say it. If you haven't felt these things yet, give it time. I think it's still a bit early. Wait awhile and see how things turn up by the end of the year/early next year. If you feel those things, then tell him. Usually the guys says it first. If you tell him first now, he might not feel that same way about you. You only get hurt in the long run and in the process. Wait until he says it first is my vote.
2006-11-08 12:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a written rule as to when you say "I love you" or whether it should be said by the man or the woman first.All that matters is that when you say it you mean it,that way you are being genuine and conveying how you feel in your heart.
By your accounts things are going really well and by telling him how you feel you should just strengthen your relationship.Of course it would be great for you to hear it from him first and who knows,he might beat you to it but coming from you makes it no less rewarding.
2006-11-08 12:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by M M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Well I think that is a man's job. You don't have to if you don't feel it but if you are in love you should wait till he say it first. If he said that you are the first one to meet his family then you are a lucky girl!!! So wait a little more and don't even think about saying it first girl! or you will get a surprise. So wait and let him do his part and then you do yours.
I remember my first love and he did all the hard works such as " I love you" " I want to marry you" things like that and you know what I did? well after knowing him a decided to give him a chance and we were together for almost 5 years. So first you most know him very well and then you make your move OK?
2006-11-08 12:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First things first, Jesus left Love here for everyone not just for people from certain cultural back grounds.
Love breaks through all of the traditional thinking of someones up bringing, so if he makes you feel like you are the one for him, then allow the feeling you have when you are around him, to manifest itself.
Other wise, it may be a day to late. We do not live forever right.
MR
2006-11-08 12:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by eyeknowiknow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said it first after 4 1/2 months because I was soooooooo i love with him (and I felt he was too) I just couldnt bare to wait for him to say it------ I HAD TOO! We're still together 2 1/2 years later :)
2006-11-08 12:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by love this site! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any need?...wait and see what happens...i reckon he feels the same anyway because if he is looking to take you to spain along with xmas dinner with his family...thats quite a big thing esp. the family xmas dinner one...so why rush into things by making them complicated and possibly awkward....if you love him it will show anyway;)
2006-11-08 12:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by chris c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with him then tell him instead of holding it in. Lots of men are too embarrased 2 say it first so he could just be waiting for you to say it first. You go girl! Good luck!
2006-11-08 12:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by DanniG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can say i love you to some one as early as 1 week after you meet. The catch is- is that realyl hwo you feel or do you just want him to say it back? I LOVE YOU are really strong words. These liitle words bring people together and break them apart.
2006-11-08 12:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a very tricky one, only you can answer really,if you feel he is the one then say it but you still couldgive him the chance to say it first. its got to be up to you....have a good time in spain, i bet he tell you if you wait a few days into the holiday......good luck
2006-11-08 12:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by twinsters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋