How long is it good 2 wait before getting married?

Question

Do you just go with what you feel? Is there an amount of time u should wait? If it's met 2 b it will last no matter how long u wait.
I met someone wonderful- Not that he asked me 2 marry him, but I'm just wondering-

Answer 1

I feel there are many different things that go into wanting to get married... If you love the person and could see your self with that person thats a great start. Second you should think of finances, I don't thinks its smart to get married if you can't afford to support eachother. Remember you'd have house payment, bills, cars, insurance, groceries... so being in love isn't always just the case to say okay lets get married... But there is not set time.... if you feel in love in a month and had your finances together I say GO FOR IT...... you can't help how fast or who you fall in love with.

Answer 2

I say give it at least two years. Yes initially in all relationships there is that heady feeling of being in love and it being new. Right than and there yes everything seems so perfect, why not get married. In reality all relationships I have after the first three months is more of a measure of what the relationship is going to be like. You need to see if you are really compatible beyond the new relationship feel. Marriage is a big decision and should not be entered into lightly. I don't know why people are in a hurry to get married only to have it a couple years later be bitter and hateful. Give yourself sometime and see if you can make the relationship more lasting before getting married. Most relationships last 1-3 months just on that new girlfriend/boyfriend feel. But honestly wait at least two years of dating before getting married. Best to wait than be in a legal marriage where the stakes are much more higher if you part.

Answer 3

I'm with Jazz..
It's going to depend on the people involved. I think a year is a minimum, so that you can see the "real" other person. More than five years and you have to ask, "What are we really doing? Why haven't we gotten married? Do we still have doubts at this stage?"

As far as evaluating a good marriage, a good question to ask yourselves is "why" you want to get married. Many people will answer things like, "because they make me happy" or "I don't feel the same when I'm not with them." Do you notice, though, that people are making it all about themselves? A marriage involves both people and if you can both honestly answer that you want to be married so that you can be there for the other person to help them in their life, then you're on the right track. While you should be happy yourself, just make sure it's not ALL about you. Well, there's my soapbox for the day...hope it's helpful. Best wishes!

Answer 4

I say go with what you feel. My first husband and I waited 5 years before we got married and the marriage only lasted 2 years. My second husband and I knew each other for 9 months before we got married and we have been married almost 9 years. It is all about how you feel.

Answer 5

There are so many factors to consider when answering this question. There are things that you two should discuss and do together to discover your true likes, dislikes, weaknesses and strengths. I highly recommend pre-marital counseling once the question is popped.

While you're in dating stage, just enjoy every moment of it! There are some really fun relationship books out there with compatibility tests. Try some of those to see how much you have in common on the important issues.

In the end, it is definitely up to the couple. Just be honest and make sure that you both want it for the right reasons. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

i've got been with my SO for 3 a million/2 years now. we are extra desirable than happy. he's a robust guy, he loves me and treats me impressive. we've not have been given any intentions of marrying, merely being together and loving one yet another for as long as time enables. i do no longer see what having a call will do for you. you have already got the family contributors and from what it appears that evidently like, a robust guy. Is it properly worth throwing all that away over a call? How are you dropping time spending it with a guy you adore? could spending it on my own be a extra effective use for it? stable adult males are no longer effortless to discover.

Answer 7

There is no amount of time to determine when two people should get married. There is determining if is he/she is the right person for you. You need to figure out exactly what is it you need from you're parther. I mean really take some time and think about it, because we confuse our wants for needs. Many of times, we believe that we need a man or woman to make us whole, we need someone to "complete" us, which I believe is wrong. You really need someone who is going to make you into a better person, and who is willing to continue for life to keep you to being that better person. That person should be able to bring out the best in you, and vice versa. And once you both have figured that out than you can consider getting married.

Answer 8

My fiance and i dated 7 mo before getting engaged. But our engagement is a long one (11 mo) so..i'd say you definitely need to know the guy pretty well...well enough to know if you want to spend the rest of your days with him. My parents only dated 2 mo, were engaged, got married a year later they've been together 25 years and are still so in love. Don't just rush it for the sake of getting married, but don't put it off if you know he's the one. If you know, you know...and that statement doesn't make sense until you know you're in love.

lotsa luck!

Answer 9

This is all matters of opinion. You cannot put an indefinite time on something of that magnitude. Everyone's situation has different circumstances. I say from a day to whenever. How long can you hold out may be the question.

Answer 10

there is no waiting period.

i would just wait to get to know him a little more to see compatible u are. u really need to know the person u r marrying. in the beginning everything is all good so u need to know his arguing style and other traits.

u also got to wait for him to ask u to marry him first or u ask him to marry u before u plan your wedding!l lol