when we first started dating i asked him not to smoke pot around me because i dont smoke or drink, but the other day his friend came over and he smoked anyways. So when he came into the house i was all upset and decided to call an ex of mine whom im still really good friends with just to sort of vent. now he's all upset and told me he wants to take a break, but i really care for him and i dont want to lose him. is there anything i can do to get him back?
2006-11-08 04:16:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't beg or plead, you are much better than that! Let him go if he wants to go, he's the one who's going to miss out not you. PLus you are a nice caring young girl who had her whole life ahead of her. You don't need that b.s. in your life!! Find someone better!! Someone that is going to appreciate you and treat you like a PRINCESS!! Good luck and I hope that you find someone MUCH better! =)
2006-11-08 04:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not against pot, but I think that if you don't like the smoke around you he should respect you and not smoke it around you. Not smoking isn't the choice we make, it's when someone decides to smoke that the decision is made. So since he chooses to smoke then he should go out of his way to make sure that you, who took the natural route, aren't uncomfortable. He should also understand that when something bothers you, you may need to vent about it to a friend.
On the other hand though, you got into the relationship knowing that he smokes pot and continued the relationship with him occasionally smoking around you so you have, in a way, accepted this about him.
You need to make this decision on your own. But I think there's more going on with him then just the fact that you don't like him smoking around you and you vented to a friend about it. You need to sit with him and find out what that is and then decide if this is really a relationship you are willing to pursue as well as accepting him for who he is.
2006-11-08 12:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistake number one was you called an ex. Next time if there is a next time dont call an ex. He should be the first person that you come to with all of your problems. Not some guy that you used to date. And how do you get him back? Well since I dont know the guy you should try talking to him about it. But I have to be honest, it might be over.
2006-11-08 12:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Saints friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is that this guy does not seem like a keeper to me. Don't you want a man who has the same values as you have, and whose personal habits are acceptable to you? If he's rejecting you now, he's doing you a favor. You need to look for someone who is more compatible with you.
Also, it's never a good idea for a woman to go after a man who has already rejected her. Men who have rejected you once will inevitably reject you again. I'm afraid this relationship is a goner.
2006-11-08 12:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Marcella S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can do anything to get him back. He should clean his habits and go to rehab to kick his habits. Give him some time. Maybe he'll come around and change. If so, that's great. If not, move on. Dating a loser who smokes pot will bring you down.
2006-11-08 12:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy him a kitkat,then you've gotta stop calling your ex-whatever the reason.Find someone else to vent.SIMPLE!!!!!If the shoe was on the other foot and he went over to his ex to puff mary jane (because you dont aprove-his excuse=much like your venting excuse???) how would you feel???On the issue of smoking thatz between you two but do you see my point?
2006-11-08 12:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by Shalimaar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want someone back that you told their certain things you don't appreciate and then he blatantly went ahead and did them. Yes I think you need to take a break and maybe find someone that agrees with what you like and is willing to respect that. You might be blinded by his presence but if he isn't around you might see things differently if you just look around
2006-11-08 12:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunn, Listen, I don't know why he would get all upset, he's probably just jealous. And besides, If he doesn't care about you that much, by not following through with one favor. He ain't worth it. Slowly he will do the opposite of what you say. It's the way men are. No offense guys.
2006-11-08 12:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by hunnii101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! He respects you as much as he respects his health. If you think the issue is smoking pot, you're going to be blind sided. The true issue is he is selfish, disrespectful, and is not in love with you. Move on now!
2006-11-08 12:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Chad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go, you asked him not to smoke pot in front of you and he did it anyways, but yet he got upset because you called your ex. this guy doesn't respect you.
2006-11-08 12:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋