As soon as she wakes up, it's bitching and harping and groaning and moaning and criticizing . Never a nice thing to say about anyone or anything, it's extremely depressing and irritating. It's my mother, by the way.
2006-11-08 04:13:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am 34 and live in a 2 family home, in the apartment above my mother. I pay half her bills and another sister pays the rest. There's no getting away because we live in close proximity.
2006-11-08 04:33:14 · update #1
Give her hugs and TLC. But then be sure to take time for yourself as much as possible.
and explain to her that she is wearing you out with all this harping and that you need a break from it. Tell her you want her to be happy and fulfilled, and suggest she see a therapist for a different perspective. Tell her that although you truly want to help, you do not have the energy or resources to do so and that you feel she needs a therapist for this reason. be sure to give her reminders when it gets to be too much.
Above all, keep reminding her that you love her anyway.
2006-11-08 04:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are. If you are already beyond the age of legal dependence, move out. If you are still legally a juvenile, then perhaps she is just stressed out by some of your own, not very desirable behaviours. You don't mention whether you have siblings, or whether there is a father in the home. Any or all of the above might add up to some ;possible r easons why your mother behaves like this. Maybe she just feels tired, and stressed out, and caught in an "infinite loop" of domestic daily grind, cooking, washing everyone else's dirty socks and underwear, and dealing with the dishes in the sink. You might stop and ask yourself how you might feel if you changed places with her
The only other thing I can suggest is that perhaps you might have some member of the family around you Mom's age, whom you could talk to about it, see if they can find out what might be going on, and perhaps even suggest that she see a doctor about depression or something of that sort.
2006-11-08 12:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow she sounds very unhappy and she is very miserable. if you are of age and have a job maybe you can move out because all she will do is depress you and most likely turn you into her. if you are under age as soon as you get up do what you have to do and then be-line for a friend or other family members house . and when you come home make sure you stay out of her way even if she is acting crazy respect her and just ignore her trust me. she wont notice any way if she is this way she is not changing she must not love herself or have a good outlook on life . live your life with love and happiness and don't dwell on her ways because you don't want to get caught up in her madness
2006-11-08 12:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she's not hapy with arraingements, she's free to make her own. Use this as an opening to start a real conversation, not as an excuse to kick her out. Maybe she'd be happier in a retirement center? There are many where you have your own apartment and keep your car and furniture. I work in a nursing home and we have plenty of angry people there. They don't like being dependant on others.
2006-11-08 12:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, my mom is just like that. but you know what i do i block her out. If we are in the car i listen to the music or i make her mad and she does not speak anymore. My mom does that because she does not like the way her life is going. I feel for her, but at the same time i have to live my life. YOU DO THE SAME!
2006-11-08 12:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsay 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As soon as she wakes up, make sure you are out of the house. When shes alone, shes bored and hating her life. Just stop dealing with her, thats what i did and i am the happiest mofo alive
2006-11-08 12:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is so unhappy with her own situation that she is trying to make others around her feel her pain and misery too.Don't react to her bitching and complaining she's trying to get a reaction out of you!!
2006-11-08 12:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but your mother is unhappy about something. Maybe you two should sit down and talk about it if she allows you.
2006-11-08 12:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by lmsweeden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds familiar. Try and tune it. But it comes down to it, i think you need to tell your mother that you guys need to talk.
2006-11-08 12:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set an example. talk about what a beautiful day it is or how great she looks.... something like that... your positive behavoir(did i spell that right?) is sure to rub off on her. they say and i quote "you are the company you keep"
2006-11-08 12:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by DEVIL IN A BLUE DRESS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋