I shouldnt have done it, now I feel insecure?

Question

I shouldnt have done it. But I did. I went through my hunnies text. We are in the process of becoming bf/gf. we are just trying to get to know eachother some more.

At first I thought he hadnt asked me out yet because he still had feelings for his ex. Last night we spoke about it and he says that not the reason, he says I make him feel like he cant make me happy. anyway...

so i went through his text, and I found some text he sent to lady friends telling them how he misses them and cant wait to see them. I also found a text he sent to his ex saying how much he loved her and how he just wanted to see her.

I cant tell if it is recent or not. there were 130 messages in his outbox and that was message 127. so i think its old, but how old? I was under the impression he dint text much. now im not so sure.

i think im over reacting because im the one is his bed everynight(no sex), but i still wonder if his heart is really with me. we havent even french kissed yet.

Answer 1

k thats entirely weird ... in his bed and lip kissing??? you need to go back home to your parents, finish high school, and date some more before you get into this.

Answer 2

First off...you need to get over your issues. You had no right to look through his personal stuff. Period. If you are going to get into a relationship and actually expect it to work...there has to be trust.
Second, he says he can't make you happy. Anyway...nothing. Either you have more issues than I thought and are wound up too tight or he has major self esteem issues. Either way you two need to talk about that before you try to go any further. Don't start a relationship out on a bad note.
Third...confess. It's the only way. Come clean. Tell him the truth. Tell him you were insecure and thought maybe he was distancing himself from you because he was just buying his time until his old girlfriend realized what she'd lost. (That's what you are really worried about...isn't it?) Tell him how wonderful you think he is and how much you care about him. Tell him you don't want to loose him and that you want your relationship to move forward. Apologize till your voice gives out. Tell him that you don't want to know when those messages you saw were sent-that's it's none of your business. Beg his foregiveness. Throw yourself at his mercy. Do not ask him about those text messages.
If he wants to be with you, then he'll do what he can to put your mind at ease. You two will talk. You'll move on with your relationship and be better for it.
If he wants to be with someone else. He'll likely confess. Or, he'll find a way to let you know so that he doesn't look like the bad guy. He may even break it off completely. That would be a big sign that he just isn't that in to you.
It may be a tough thing to put yourself through. But, you know it's the right thing to do. Suck it up. Do it.

Answer 3

I don't know what kind of phone he has, but most phones show the date and time of a text message. Regardless, you should talk to him about it. Don't tell him you read his messages, but ask him to be straight up with you and tell you what is really going on. You are always going to feel insecure about it until you confront him.

Answer 4

How about you talk about it. Number one own up to what you did. And if he does want those other girls let him go. If it is you that he wants, then he should let them go. Either way, he is pretty dumb for keeping all of those text. apparently if he is into you and the other chicks he is not hiding that very well.

Answer 5

men are so funny about girlfriends. Alot of men just dont want to give up what they have until they are sure things are going to work out with the new girl. Dont read too much into it hun, if he is spending all his time with you it speaks volumes.

Answer 6

there should of been a date with the text

Answer 7

If it is #127 it is recent. I would say just take it slow and don't out yourself all out there.