sucking up to much to a girl.?

Question

it has come to my attention that im sucking up to a girl. so that maybe her feelings will change. i really cant understand her.i usually dont suck up to people. and other people have notice. and i might even lose a friend cause of her. i really dont know if i should keep going with this. i guess i am willing to do anything to be with her.

it has come to my attention that im sucking up to a girl. so that maybe her feelings will change. i really cant understand her.i usually dont suck up to people. and other people have notice. and i might even lose a friend cause of her. i really dont know if i should keep going with this. i guess i am willing to do anything to be with her. she already knows how i feel about her.mabe i just cant face the truth.

shes useing me to get under one of my friend skin. i know thats wrong. i dont know if im willing to go along with her anymore. i just what her to accept me as more than a friend.

Answer 1

It's sweet that you like her enough to do things for her, but don't you think you need to talk to her and see how she feels before you lose friends over a girl that may not have any desire to be with you? you need to tell her how you feel and what's going on in your head. nine times out of ten, she isn't a mind reader. Talk to her, and then go from there.

Answer 2

You shouldn't have to prove that you are a good guy, she should already know if she wants to be with you or not. It doesn't matter how much you suck up to her or how many friends you loose because of her - If she doesn't want you then move on. There are way too many single women out there to be dwelling on one. I guarantee if you shift your attention away from her - she'll try to work her way into your life. It's up to you whether you'll take her back or not. As for loosing friends because of her - don't fall for it. A true woman would not want her man to drop any of his friends. (Well, unless if the friend isn't good for you). You need to sit down and ask yourself why you like her and what is it about her that would make you willing to do almost anything to be with her. You need to re-evaluate why you need to be needed.

Answer 3

I had a guy that sucked up to me big time because he thought that if he did, that eventually we would become more than friends. But it really bothered me that he did that because he would agree with everything that I had to say and it was like he had no opinion of his own. I don't think most people want someone who lets them have their way all the time. It's just like the guy can't think for himself.

Answer 4

Well the good news is that you're doing it for a reason. Find out why you want to sabatoge the relationship...sucking up to girls ALWAYS kills the relationship.

When you find the answer you'll stop the behaviour.

Answer 5

Sad to say I guess your going to have to choose between yourself and friends and your girl. Just make sure before you sacrifice everything including your friends and your self respect that this girl is definately worth it

Answer 6

Don't suck up. We really don't like that. Just be yourself. Girls don't respect a guy who kisses her butt all the time.

Answer 7

why would you chage yourself and be overly nice and give her special attention when she aint did nothin to deserve if you keep this up you are destined for the friends zone

Answer 8

Yeah, and she knows that... Now that she knows that.. ingore her for a little bit.. .She'll come around now that she has to do the chasing

Answer 9

sweetie...she got you whipped....if she aint interested then ignore her....then watch how fast she will talk to you....girls lovee attention...and if she loses some..she will want it back =]