This girl is making me very uncomforatable... What do I do?

Question

The girl I am talking about is my old next door neighbor who I lived by from the time I was 8 to almost 18, I'm 20 now, she's a year younger than me. I think she developed a bit of a crush on me because I was always active and a role model with her little brothers, who are almost 10 years younger than I am. I really love kids, but I don't think this girl is my type at all. I never talked to her much, but she always seemed so superficial.

Now she started her first year at my college where I'm a sophmore and she is staring at me constantly. It's gotten to the point where I am trying to avoid where I think she is going to be. I havn't even talked to her since I moved. I just stare back for a second then look away. I smiled last time, but she really wasn't even smiling, just staring at me. She is a very pretty girl, but like I said I look for girls with my same interests.

How do I get this girl to stop staring at me? I don't want to hurt her, should I just learn to avoid her better?

Answer 1

Saying that she seemed superficial means that you've never really talked to her to know who or what she is all about. Talking to her doesn't mean you want to date her but maybe understanding her will ease your discomforting about the staring. Maybe the staring will stop.

Has it occurred to you that she is in a place where she doesn't know anyone and yours is a familiar face but she doesn't know how to approach you?

You sound like a really nice guy; I think whatever you do, it will be done with kindness.

Answer 2

awww, give the girl a break, I'm not saying go against your own judgment I'm just saying be straight with the chick. I'm 23 i totally get where your coming from , but she is like a kid sis to u right? well start treating her like one she will get the point. its a known fact expecially in girls that when they have a superior or mentor of the opposite sex they tend to develope strong feelings for them. the only way to get your point across is to be straight foward and ferm and direct dont beat around the bush.

Answer 3

Just stop paying any attention to her if you're sure she's not someone you want to be involved with. No smiling, no glancing, no nothing. And if she talks to you, one word answers are the best way to show a lack of interest without being disrespectful.

Answer 4

you are acting like a jerk, just go and say hello and catch up after all you know her for so long but never actually talk to her? what's to lose by just saying hi? you said you dont want to hurt her what if she know you are avoiding her? just talk to her and work things out, tell her or show her you are not interested and she'll move on

Answer 5

Take her to the side onw day or maybe even write her a letter saying that you are making very incomfortable if you continue that you will report her to an administrator or dean

Answer 6

I would try talking to her. I believe that people come into your life for a reason. Maybe not to have a relationship but to teach you something. You are suppose to talk to her. So do that. It may be good for you, but you will have a reason later on.

Answer 7

Why don't you just try going out with her? One of two things could happen. 1) You could find out you have more in common than you know, or 2) she will find out you have nothing in common and drop you.

Answer 8

I don't know if you can stop her from staring, just give it time, she will either meet someone else or give up on you. But, why not give her a chance?

Answer 9

it sounds like your the one with the crush , you have not said anything to merit her wanting you she can look if she wants to she might not even be starring at you it's most likely all in your mind grow up.

Answer 10

crushes will fade in time.. she'll get over her infatuation with you just don't give her extra attention that she might think you're feeling the same way. ignore it and take it casually.