My boyfriend and I have had the best relationship for the past 2 years...we really don't fight...we always have fun together and enjoy all of the same adventurous activities. There has never been a rift in our relationship of any kind and he has always been considerate towards me around other girls. I have never had any indication that I was anything short of his soulmate and he talks about our future marriage as if it is a done deal...even to his family and friends (we are not yet engaged). Then one day I found out he was text messaging a girl flirtaciously and some sexual content, and sent a text message to a different girl that said " call me anytime". I confronted him saying this relationship was over, He denied it at first until I showed him the proof...then he said he had no good explanation for it. I pressed for an explanation and he said the attention from these girls was a boost to his ego, he knew he would never pursue it and it meant nothing,is that possible? need opinions
2006-11-08 04:04:15 · 20 answers · asked by electra4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
men always find a way to fu** up with a good girl. some woman based on their heart and feelings would give him another chance some don't even wait for it to happen again they let it go for good. You have to follow whats in your heart, if you love him and you trust him enough to give him another chance you go for it, but be careful and be prepared just incase it happens again. Don't let your guards down and if you do decide to give him another chance if it happens, that's it. Because 1st time shame on him, 2nd or 3rd shame on you. Don't let no man make a fool out of you. If he wants to build his ego then he doesn't need you, because that means he is going go furhter once its bulit.
2006-11-08 04:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since mind reading is out of the question. We must assume that he is just taking you for granted. And until something solid comes along you are and will continue to just be his favorite stand-by. I am sorry to have to say that, But I see no other reason for his actions. Right now in spite of your love and your patience you are beating a dead horse. I am not sure that time a-way from each other will solve this problem, So I do wish you well and better luck in your next relationship. And remember this you gave him your best and he was just not ready for something good to happen in his life. Also remind him that the grass is always greener where there is the most sh*t is lying on the ground and that losing you put his butt back on that pile of Sh*t that he seems to enjoys steeping in..............
2006-11-08 04:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible but questionable. I would wonder if it meant nothing why he didn;t mention it. Men do get an ego boost from other women paying attention to them and that is harmless. but texting them is taking it a step further. I think you need to have a talk with him and ask him to be totally honest with you. Watch his actions closely and if he starts to change or act differently...somethings up.
2006-11-08 04:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he thinks you are a moreon to believe that lol. Sorry to say hopefully your not that gullable or he wouldn't have told that girl to call him any time. And if he is giving her sexually explicit material then maybe he isn't going to meet up with her but he is definately having fun. All I can say is if you want to stay with him then play at his own game and find some guys to text to. If it is okay for him then it should be okay for you
2006-11-08 04:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible. If they have a relationship only through text messages, that is just like people who chat with people just on the internet. People are always saying its just meaningless flirting. However I would be suspicious of where he met her and why he gave her his phone number instead of just talking on the computer.
2006-11-08 04:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Niecy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. Sometimes guys just need to know that they still got it when in a relationship. Not saying that your boyfriend is being completly honest, but sometimes guys need this. I know it may be hard to believe that he is not cheating, but make sure your 100% right before jumping to any conclusions.
2006-11-08 04:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible that he was only doing this beacuase he liked the female attention but that doesnt mean to say hes not getting enough attention from you just remeber that! all guys like female atention and it would be denial to say that most girls dont like male attention. but ofcourse you are not wrong in questioning his motives so i think you should talk to him more about it tell him that you feel you cant get your head around it and want to feel like you can trust himagain but yourfinding it difficult to. he sounds like he really cares about you so i dont think that he would have done anything more than tx grls behind your back because he seems really comitted to you. just talk to him about it and tell him how difficult it is for you. :)
2006-11-08 04:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its very possible... But also very hurtful... I would consider ending the relationship and at least tell him that if it doesn't stop now it will be over.... Also, try to boost his ego yourself... and tell him you don't appreciate him lying to you and that he is losing your trust... and probably won't get it back...
2006-11-08 04:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by :::Christina:::: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is bulls**t. If he was so content with the relationship he wouldn't need multiple females to boost his ego. If he really loved you and only you, you would be the booster. Point blank period!
2006-11-08 04:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a liar. He's just a very good liar, that's why you were so shocked. And how you knew nothing about his true nature. He is not committed to you. Break up with him.
2006-11-08 04:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋