i told my friend about issues i was having with my bf. my friend went a told him everything i said. she says it was because she was concerned...now she says that he was saying bad things about me behind my back. he says everything he said to her, i already know.
but neither of them will send me the email conversation..she says because i am blinded by him and everything he said will hurt me. he says he won't send it because it's a dead issue.
which one would should i believe?
2006-11-08 03:59:39 · 28 answers · asked by sassy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is trying to steal him from you-some friend,huh?
2006-11-08 04:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by boobird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ex friend went behind your back and shared confidential information to your boyfriend. That's forgivable but it's an indicator that she can not be trusted with your confidences. Now, she hints that your boyfriend said bad things about you, It sounds like your ex friend is a trouble maker who may consciously or unconsciously be trying to break you & your boyfriend up. The boyfriend says it's all a dead issue. Ask him exactly what does that mean. It may be his way of saying your relationship is over, If I were you I'd have the final word with both of them. To my big mouth exfreind I'd simply say I 'm hurt & disappointed you had to open your big mouth. I won't be confiding in you any more because I can't trust you. Period over. to the boyfreind I'd say what's the true status of our realtionship? Listen to his answer... if he says its over just move on. If he expressess confusion and doubt ask if you can talk privately to him about the issues. And next time around I don't care how good your girl freind may seem keep your boyfriend relationship information private. Things have a way of getting messy when others get involved with a couples intimate relationship. Good luck!
2006-11-08 12:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, the main reason for your boyfriend not to show you the email, is because he wants to keep you from getting mad at your friend. I know I, as a guy was in a similar situation a while back, and I knew that showing my girlfriend the im convorsation would hurt her feelings more in the long run of things. I understand that it seems to you they should tell you what was said, but, perhaps you should just trust him on this. Not to toss blame, but in my experience, the nozy friends that run back to the other partener in a relationship are normally doing it to start Sh*t. Give your boyfriend a chance to be right about this one....
2006-11-08 12:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by fem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither, they are both trying to hide something from you. Especially your friend....I would never go behind my friend's back and do something like that. And if she really did it because she was concerned, then she would let you see the email. I think you should re-evaluate both of your relationships....
2006-11-08 12:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bright Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't believe either one of them. If your friend really felt concerned about you, then she would want you to see for yourself if your boyfriend said some really hurtful things about you and she would want you to get yourself out of a harmful relationship. If your boyfriend wanted you to know that he wasn't saying hurtful things about you to your own friend and that she was lying to you, he would want you to see it for yourself also and leave a bad friendship that could hurt your relationship with him. Seems like neither has your best interest in mind.
2006-11-08 12:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Laney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt believe the girl, dont let your guard down or something. you can still be friends with her just dont trust her afterall she betrayed you by telling your boyfriend, if she can do it once she can do it again. As for your boyfriend i'm sure he did say some bad things about you, if there is no way you can read it then let it go and try not to think about it
2006-11-08 12:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something sounds very fishy here, like both of them are trying to piss you off bad enough to drop both of them as b.f. and friend and that gives them a chance to hook up, if they haven't already. I would not believe either one of them. Investigate it yourself. Mom always told me, never tell the left hand what the right hand is doing! Try to set them up and catch them. Good luck.
P.S. Ever hear of the show on tv called *Cheaters* ???
2006-11-08 12:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront your gf. She doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. Stop telling her private things because she definately cannot be trusted. If it were me, I would not even consider her a friend. Tell her to stay out of your relationship and mind her own business and also tell your bf that you would prefer he stop talking about you to her. Good Luck!
2006-11-08 12:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?? if you are having issues with your botfriend, then it should be between the 2 of you not a third person. You deserve to lose both of them. You are playing a very bad game!!
2006-11-08 12:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither , you get straight from him. There is 3 sides to every story , your side , his side and the truth. Maybe she could give some insight but what is happening but i would talk to him as well. You owe yourself that
2006-11-08 12:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by dramaqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should believe ur bf when he says it is a dead issue. and if ur friend told him everythin i dont think u should tell her 2 many things about ur personal life. just b sure that what she tells is d truth and nothin but d truth.
2006-11-08 12:03:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋