i fell in love with my coworker whos married. I know he loves me too...we have love for each other. He said if he had met me first he would have married me. He would never cheat and i would never allow him. Im trying to let go but it jus feels so perfect. is it too good to be true? should i move on
2006-11-08 03:48:11 · 16 answers · asked by no shame in my game 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've answered your own question. Yes.
You're suffering, you have holes in your boundary, you need to get them fixed.
2006-11-08 03:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are already cheating. What you describe should be considered an emotional affair which is defined as expressing thoughts, ideas, deep feelings, emotions, or sharing experiences normally reserved for spouse with another person. An emotional affairs differs from a physical affair in that it is not initiated for simple sex. Emotional affairs are often initiated when one spouse is not receiving emotional support from the other spouse and seek fulfillment from another person. Emotional affairs are often viewed as being as devastating to a relationship as an affair that involves only sex. However, some argue that emotional affairs are more devastating to relationships because even though many relationships can survive when one party is not being sexually fulfilled, most cannot survive when one of the parties are not having their emotional needs met.
So basically it is not important whether it leads to sex it is very damaging no matter what. So let it go now before you him and she will be hurt.
2006-11-08 11:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never know what would have happened. Part of your appeal to him may be that he is married and you are single and he is playing the what if game.
The only thing I can say is that if it were so perfect and his relationship is not working with his wife you wouldn't be the one moving on he would be. If he loves you as you say then he is cheating on his wife maybe not physically and if it were you then he would do that to you as well. He is unavailable and that means not free to be in love with you.
For your own sake and future heartache...move on. If it were meant to be than it will be.
2006-11-08 11:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Hopey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life after all he's married.Men are fond of making such comments sometimes,they use that to get into the minds of women.If he would have married you instead if he had met you first but he didn't so what's his point? I'm happy you don't want to be a "spare".Don't let him take advantage of you.
2006-11-08 11:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by Phy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He's not leaving his wife for you. Stop playing yourself honey. It's not worth it. You will find a guy who you can completely have to yourself. Don't steal another woman's man. If he cheats on her, then surely he can and will cheat on you too, even if its just emotionally. Sometimes that's worse.
2006-11-08 11:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. fight that temptation you have to be with that man, he is a husband with a wife, put your shoes in his wife if the two of you have affair? im sure you will have some other guy, its a matter of discipline and choice in your brain. love is a choice, not an emotion.
2006-11-08 11:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on he's married .There's plenty of single men in the world
2006-11-08 11:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Messing with a Married person is never good leave him only nowyour to pretty for this type of mess
2006-11-08 11:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on. this is not a friendship that grew into something. he works with you, he's married and bottom line if he is that unhappy he will leave his wife. DONT DO IT.
2006-11-08 11:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by prettysexycalves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
used that too good to be true and move on. If you truly love hime u will let him go.
2006-11-08 11:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by besos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋