My girlfriend maintains a private myspace site that only her "friends" can access. She admits that some of her "friends" on the site are ex's, one of whom she secretly dated after meeting me 3 years ago. I explained my feeling that it was disrespetful to keep a private site with ex boyfriends on it, especially one that she was secretly seeing after we started dating. She says she is friends with all of her ex's, and that I should not be insecure. I don't feel it is being insecure, I feel that her communication with these men on a private site that I cannot access is disrespectful to me and wrong, even if it is true they are now "just friends." She is 39 years old. What do you think? Am I being irrational or too insecure? What would you do?
2006-11-08 03:45:53 · 19 answers · asked by Steve D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um i think any 39 year old should not have a myspace anyway!
2006-11-08 03:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 39 of course she is going to have a lot of history, but maintaining friendships with ex boyfriend after ex boyfriend is really weird. Sounds like she is the one that is insecure. Tell her to let you into her private myspace. If she won't let you in now while you are her boyfriend maybe she will when you are her ex. I don't think she would like it if you had a private myspace with your past lovers. By the way you should have never taken her back when you found out she was secretly meeting with an ex.
2006-11-08 03:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that she is doing more than just talking to these ex's because of the fact she was still seeing one of them when she was still with you.
You arent being irrational, youre being realistic. Statistics show that when one of your mates still communicate with their exs, they are actually keeping them as rebounds, if you guys break up. You are speaking the truth, and she is still talking to them, becuz she likes the fact that they may still want her as a girlfriend. She is and adult on myspace...if you are first of all 39 yrs old and on myspace, your a loser.
If it was me, I would set up a myspace account too. I would have girls in my top ten list and make sure you let her know that they are exs, even tho they arent. How would she know anyway? So anyway, let her know that you still talk to them sometimes and its not a big deal. Believe me...she will get mad and jealous and eventually ask you why are you still talking to them.
A taste of your own medicine is the cure for disrespectful spouses.
Try this, i did and my bf doesnt even talk to his exs anymore.
2006-11-08 04:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no secret friends (STUFF) between girlfriend/boyfriends etc... If its nothing for you to worry about as she say's, then ask to see what she is writing, if she feels nothing wrong with it, then she should easily let you see what is going on. On the other hand, if she won't then either she's hiding something or just plain disrespecting you and a commitment that you both share...
2006-11-08 03:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by dadknows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See this is why girls can't be friends with the opposite sex and vice versa. What happends is when they get alone, its a chance for an emotional connection to be made putting them in a tight situation that can lead to things like cheating.
I think you need to decide if you trust her or not. If she secretly dated one of them when she was with you, what makes you think she won't or still isn't doing it now.
She should respect your wishes because she is with YOU not them and thats why they are called EX"S!!
2006-11-08 03:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my freind is going through the same thing she doesn't like it so you should just make a myspace also and have her add u since she is ur girlfriend and if she can add her ex then she can add u then u can atleast be in on most of it they can write secretly through mail but u probably don't have anything to worry about if he leaves loves comments on her page then u have to worry
2006-11-08 03:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Cherry Blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, sorry if u don't agree, but there is no ring on her finger, so, you cant control anything she does. i do think you are being a little insecure because, if you don't trust her that's your issue not hers. she is her own person, she is not there to feed your ego, you are trying to be in charge of her and her actions it sounds like to me. on your behalf though if she is doing something other than just being friends with these ex-boyfriends than she isn't worth your time or energy and at this point you are just waisting both on something that's not worth it. because it wont work out if there is no trust or honesty
2006-11-08 04:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by southernprincess0607 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seeing as you have this variety of long dating along with her i might say attempt to speak to her extra and notice in case you could artwork it out. it somewhat is substantial to be open approximately those issues. perchance she's ashamed of her previous or something?
2016-10-21 11:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop her and mom on to another. I have male friend too but none of them are ex's. I had a friend that i really did like but since my marriage i dont communicate with him or my other male friends. you should be mad and leave her
2006-11-08 03:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by besos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, just let it ride and don't stress it, if anything is going on you will find out so just hold out and see what happens
but Trust her until she gives you reason not too
2006-11-08 03:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋