This is driving me crazy. Am I the only one?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and knew each other for several years before that. This is probably the healthiest, happiest relationship I have ever been in. Except for one little thing. My sex drive is much higher than his. I am always the initiator. I feel like he is just giving in most of the time and it is driving me crazy!! He constantly tells me I'm sexy, but that is about as far as the proof goes. Am I the only woman that has this problem?

He is only 28 and in great physical condition. Shyness doesn't seem to be the problem.

Answer 1

Here's an interesting article I found on the oprah website as it relates to sex drive not matching (it would be informational for both of you, suggesting that he read it also):

Every person has a different libido (or sex drive). Some couples find that they're perfectly matched with each other. Unfortunately, others have problems. If your partner wants sex much more often than you'd like, see what Dr. Phil McGraw has to say:

Before you worry about your partner, you need to consider your own feelings. If your emotional needs are not being met, then you won't be eager to be sexual.

If sex is all he or she wants, your partner may be trying to fulfill some other need with sex. Your partner needs to find another hobby or other ways to spend time with you. It's important that you both truly start listening to your needs to make the relationship work.

Compromise, compromise, compromise. Negotiate a win-win situation. Even if you have to schedule a time for sex, that's a plan that you can both follow. If your partner loves you, he or she will work with you to find a happy medium.

There's a difference between sexual appetite and sexual addiction. If you feel that your partner is obsessed with sex, you may want to seek counseling together.

Answer 2

No....but how you address this problem may be the difference between a good relationship and a bad one. Chances are that his sex drive is not going to increase...and figuring out the problem may be difficult. I would suggest that you encourage him to have a general physical....and ensure that there is no medical issue. You didn't mention his age and that could be a factor. He may not know or understand why his sex drive is low, and guys are touchy about such things. Luck to you.

Answer 3

I know how you feel, like daj11551 I wish you were my girlfriend (or could at least talk to mine?) too.

You may want to do some background checks on your man, pay attention to his behaviour outside of the bedroom, think back on various situations between you in the past.

I don't want to alarm you, but it doesn't sound like regular 'guy' behaviour, and in the few instances I've heard like this in the past, it's turned out that the guy was really gay and using the hetero relationship as a cover-up.

Sorry to put that thought in your head, but wouldn't it be better to know the truth? This non-interest in sex is something that could develop into a major issue in your relationship in the future. Better to look into it now.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Probably not but I have no evidence backing me up. However, I wouldn't think you have something wrong with you either. What I think is that your bf is either worn out or unable to keep up with you. I believe that he still loves you but just can't keep up with your pace.
A previous gf I had spent two weeks, before going on a vacation, jumping my bones three times a day. I loved it even though it wore me out. I paid her back when she returned.
So I think everything is alright with the two of you. Just give him a break once in a while or show him other ways of giving you pleasure. I am sure you two can find a good middle ground to meet, sexually, at.

Answer 6

I used to have that problem... trust me its not you... he could just be very shy or has some insecurities about himself. The best thing is to talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and ask him what you could do together as a couple to have a better , more active, sex life. Make him feel comfortable with it...and tell him to be honest...

Answer 7

Well it is normal. Women generally have more sexual appetite then men! Pl get your satisfaction from him as much as you can. If you are still hungry then take help from some gizmos or your very reliable hand!


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Answer 8

Sex before marriage is a sin, God most likely is making this an issue for you because its wrong, and hopes you see this... :) increase your relationship with God, stop having sex until you are married, and you will be so happy, God rewards ten fold, those who do His Holy Will.. It might sound hard, and be hard at first, but believe me girl, its amazing!

Answer 9

i wish my girlfriend has your high sexual demand, haha she is a bit like your boyfriend, always like giving it to me because i seems to need it. I guess your sexual demand is normal, its like a guy always wanted to have sex, girls need sex as well, some just dont show it but they love it.

Answer 10

I'm that way... I want it all the time.. Sometimes I think I'm a freak. I want more than my man... and THEY LOVE it when you tell them how you want it...